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My Story Rebuilding My Beloved has passed away
#20: January 09, 2026, 10:09:39 PM
XY,

I came across your FB post today and realized that something very sad had happened.

I returned to this forum and read your post.

I am so very sorry to read such sad news.

My condolences to you, your daughter, son in law, and other family/friends.  It is very good to read that you were all together with him during this very tough time.

Much love,

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Dumped OW#3 9/15 (After 4 years)
Married OW#1 2019
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My Beloved has passed away
#21: January 11, 2026, 10:17:36 AM
I’m not on here much anymore, but something made me come and I saw your posting. Although you had hoped for full reconciliation I do think he showed you love in small ways after your divorce in the only way he was capable of. I’m so sorry for your loss, but what a lovely send off he received by you with you taking care of him in his final days. In the end it appears you both got some closure and also some acknowledgment that the love was real.

Wishing you and your daughter love and support and thank you for all your support you have given for decades to those who followed behind you with many different versions of MLC.
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Jan 2018 BD1 moved out I filed for Div/ H stopped it
Oct 2018 moved back
Oct 2020 BD2
Feb 2021 Div-29 1/2 years
July 2021 Married OW
Feb 2022  XH fired
June 2022 XH bring OW to meet family due to xMIL illness
May 2023 went NC after telling XH we could not be friends
Aug 2023 XH moves w/o OWife
May 2024 xMIL visits XH/OW in their new home
Aug 2024 cut relations w/XH fam.
Dec 2024 D33 expecting baby ( XH not told)

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My Beloved has passed away
#22: January 12, 2026, 06:08:40 AM
Dear XYZ,

Despite our sometimes quite differing perspectives, I always admire(d) your strength and devotedness to your Beloved and your faith. I am so sorry to read this. I have been on vacation for the last few weeks and had taken a "leave of absence" from FB, HS, and the Internet in general only to come back and read this. I saw the title and knew it was rom you.

Your beloved was a lucky man to have you in his life, right through to the end.

May he rest in peace and rise again to glory. My prayers are with you and your family as you traverse the halls of mourning and grief.

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