[forthetrees]

Thanks so much for posting this and yes, it seems to be dead on in its perception of what happens in the sudden abandonment.

[LearningIamOk]

Very interesting article. Thank you for taking the time to post it. I fit the bill to a T.

[Buggy31]

EXCELLENT Article...incredibly insightful...thnx

BUGS

[Stillpraying]

Just saw this on my internet news today.
Not much info about the research yet but when more is published, I'll post it.

http://au.news.yahoo.com/vic/latest/a/-/latest/15352840/world-first-study-tests-diet-depression-link/

[Thundarr]

http://www.youbeauty.com/relationships/swinging-happens-2?utm_source=outbrain&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=OutBrain%2BCPC&utm_term=Swinging-Happens

Just happened to come across this today after having a conversation yesterday with a couple ladies during a session.  This is a topic I researched back in grad school (didn't participate, but was considering becoming a sex therapist) and it seems to be considered a "balance" for some people who want to stay married but crave the "excitement you haven't felt since you were 17 and didn't know how the night was going to end."  Feeling generally crappy right now and the site appears to be pretty slow today, so I figured I would pose the question out there as to whether or not MLC might somehow be tied into this in that people in good marriage suddenly crave something that being married means giving up for most people.  Thoughts, opinions or statements of disgust welcome.

[Anjae]

Ok, I know a little about the subject because I once had an assignment that required some research in this field and others concerned with sexuality, marriage and nightlife. It has never cross my mind it is linked to MLC but it is a fact that most people into it seem to be MLC couples who are after some sort of illusion. That, some how, want to capture to the “lost spark”.

There are younger people who do couples crossing but normally they will do it in holidays or after party context, not into a swingers club or community. In those you find mostly unattractive middle age men and their wives. It is a gloomy, sad, unhappy world and the last place on earth where I would go for spark a marriage up but people seem to think it will bring some novelty. The only thing it brings is an addiction to a high and, in many cases, the embarrassment of one of the couple members, normally the woman, who, afraid of losing her husband had said yes and went along.

It is even worse than my husband's clubbing world, Thundarr. I doubt anyone in the swingers scene is happy.

[Anjae]

Forgot to say, that is my country’s reality but, somehow, I think it is like MLC, it does not make much difference if you are in Portugal or in the US.

[Ready2Transform]

Looking forward to seeing more!  I definitely think there's a link (especially as there are more hormones pumped into meats and harmful preservatives that we are just now seeing the fallout from).  A pivotal part of my recovery from MLC has been a very strict supplement regimen that has helped me increase serotonin, as well as a general improvement in the quality of my diet. Thanks for posting this!

[Anjae]

Thanks for posting, SP.

Some foods can help but I’m more in line with this: “However, Associate Professor Jaka says it is unlikely a change of diet would form the primary treatment of depression.”

Husband has a great diet when he was home and it did not prevent the depression or the MLC. Medicines are needed to many depressions. Of course a balanced diet can help and, after the levels are balanced, will be important.

And yes, red meat is important. Especially during depression and/or MLC.

[Stillpraying]

AnneJ,
I hadn't heard red meat is important.  I love eating red meat but don't all that often because of the cost vs chicken.
Do you have some more knowledge on this?

I think this research is helpful not just to the MLCers but to LBSers who find themselves in depression becuase of what has happened.  Particularly the years or months before BD when you have no idea why there is all the crazy making.