[wondering]

I found this site and it's 27 pages of single other women talking about their affairs with married men and how much pain they are in. It was an eye opener if you think they are so happy and never going to break up. Many talk about the addictive quality of it.

www.lifescipt.com/Life/Relationships/Love-101/Dating_A_Married_Man_Think_Before_You_Act.aspx#disqus_thread

Hope the link works...it was very interesting to read that the majority of these women had major regrets.

[truth_seeker]

WWTD

Very interesting article.  Thanks for sharing!!  Eye opening.

Here's the link to get their as the one previously provided didn't come up. 

http://www.lifescript.com/Life/Relationships/Love-101/Dating_A_Married_Man_Think_Before_You_Act.aspx

TS

[wondering]

For some reason my link didn't work so go to what truth_seeker posted. But it is the comments below the article that are so interesting

[unbroken]

I am appalled by the number of women who just blatantly don't care that they are having an affair with a married man and how many of them believe that these poor men aren't getting any sex.  I want to smack them all.  So many of them are "in love" an believe that they are the true love of the man's life.  NOT.

[wondering]

Yes, isn't it weird. Alot of them were so positive these men would leave their wives for them. Even a few did but mostly temporarily and then went back to their wives. All the promises and excuses from the married man. These women actually think they are special, soulmates. But page after page are regrets. not to hurting the wife and kids. Only for their own pain and wasted years.

[truth_seeker]

LIW,

From what I read of the comments there wasn't much remorse from these OW.  More justification for their actions than remorse or regret.  It was all about "them".  Selfish, narcissistic behavior.  Truly eye opening at how little regard they have towards marriage.  Which is why they are so needy, clingy, and have no self-respect.  I too am appalled!

TS

[unbroken]

Really you see what they are willing to settle for in terms of a relationship, never a full relationship.  Some of them are outright prostitutes saying that they are providing the sex the wives won't.  Wow.  What low self esteem.

[wondering]

These three posts are perfect examples:

It is a lonely, sad, empty place to be. He tells me I am his soulmate and I am the only person he has ever loved,. . . but he will never leave his wife because he needs to be there for his kids. I never imagened I would be the other women. I know I am better than that. He says his wife has no idea, that she trusts him, that makes me sick. I am so damaged from this. Whoever said it before, how could I ever really have trusted him when he is such a good liar to his wife of 20 years. .
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  Guest  03/03/2010 02:46 PM in reply to Guest 

believe me i know that feeling all too well.they are liars i was told also im his soul-mate its all crap.they dont know how they are hurting us,its very shattering and going to be hard to ever trust again.maybe they do know how they are hurting us but really dont care.
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  Guest  02/07/2010 10:11 AM in reply to Guest 

I too went through the exact same situation. I broke it off and I wonder what will ever be....but I should have heeded the warnings from all of my friends. The fact is we are adults and we know better but sometimes our hearts and chemistry just happens. It is forbidden and that is what makes it exciting! If only these men would have the backbones to leave but they will not and do we really want a man that cannot be a MAN and strong? And yes, if they will do it to the woman they made vows to....they will do it to us in 10 years for the younger better model! Men suck and they are all the same, us women need to stick by each other.

[LettingGo]

us women need to stick by each other.

Which women does she want to "stick by"? Other women just like her? Cuz I haven't been invited to THAT party.... I'm just the wife!

I don't feel sorry for these narcissistic women AT ALL.... they need to put down the romance novel and find out the world doesn't revolve around them and that AFFAIRS don't "just happen"!

One phrase I hear people say a lot in our society, once from a therapists mouth, is "you can't help who you fall in love with!" and I beg to differ!! I personally, am NOT attracted to married men (other than OP and Ready  ) so there is little chance I would "fall in love" with one....

Some people are self indulgent little babies who take and take with NO regard for others..... I'm glad for their misery... too bad they won't LEARN something from their pathetic "mistakes"..... all they learn from it is that "all men are liars and cheaters and they suck and I am the poor little victim!".

I can't wait for my husband to figure out FULLY that his OW is NOT a "nice person who got dragged into something..." umm, no, she could have said "No, I will not date you... or NO, I will not continue to date you... or NO, I will not move myself and my daughter in with you.... or NO.... I will not sleep with you since you live with your wife... or NO, I will not emotionally blackmail you to keep you away from your kids...." She could have turned the whole thing around AS FAR AS HER PARTICIPATION at any time....my husband would have found someone else, but she could have done the right thing instead of riding her "mistake" to the ground.

[growing every day]

How about just "NO because you are married"