[truth_seeker]

If you read my thread you'll know my H has continued to threaten D. So early on, in order to protect myself I issued him with L separation papers as this is an option in the state I live.  Threw my H into panic, went to court and got a temp order siting his OW in the legal order to stay away from kids and any other future OW relations among other things.

Now fast forward to a few weeks back, my H in one of his "temper tantrums" throws at me that I served him with papers to D him!  As if this was my choosing to which I calmly replied that was not in fact the case and go look back at the legal papers to see what it really was.  Also throw in a few truth darts in the process as this was actions taken based on a lack of trust in him and will need to be earned rather than given blindly.  So now we have another court hearing coming up to make the legal S final.  I have mixed feelings but I am ok with whatever the outcome right now.  That may change as it closer to the day.

I share this because it's clear the MLCer doesn't know what they want.  D one minute then pain the next.  I took his toy away and he's having a tantrum.  Mommy is no longer mothering this boy!  LOL  Not being disrespectful but that's how I have to think of my H at this time to remind me he's not finished growing up. 

[Freddygone]

My God truth_seeker, you are so right. I did not realise that this (divorce threat) was just another toy.
My wife in fact has since this happened said she does not want to communicate with me now (she wasn't much before) she says I am frightening. I think because nothing seems to phase me now, everything is in shreds and I'm still standing, but yes another toy has been removed.
It was always a threat before, then a push and now the table has turned she (or they) dont like it. It can't be used any more.
Certainly she is looking for a fight, but I wont give her a fight. It is truly a tantrum.
I too am quite relaxed about the process as for me the bond of about 35 years together does not break with a licence being taken away, a divorce simply would make things more obvious.
I believe this is part of their journey to try and blame it all on others. It must be very frightening.
There is always the possibility that they could remain with this alienator, and that must be even more frightening for them. At my age I dont have so much time to rebuild, but I can just go and sit on a beach.
Thank you everyone for echoing my experiences, it makes me realise I am not going mad.