[kikki]

I've just driven home from a friends birthday party - feeling absolutely furious!

I met a woman that I hadn't met before.  We talked about a variety of subjects - psychology being one.  One subject lead to another and she randomly told me that she understands being in an altered reality state herself.  When was that I asked, curious.

The answer was, 'when I had an affair with a married man'. 

I asked how she felt about it, and she said it was a very easy thing to slip into, and as she has no respect whatsoever for relationships, she didn't feel any remorse for being involved with a married man with kids.

She said she doesn't believe that relationships can last 'for ever' and he was hers for the taking.

I asked where she got that idea from, her family?  No, she said it was in her early 20's when she was constantly targeted by 'unhappy' married men.

I couldn't help myself and had to ask 'what was it about you that kept attracting that sort of man?'

She looked genuinely stunned, and said that was a good question and that she'd have to think about it.

Her nonchalance truly floored me.  She was far from a creature of outward beauty, and I have to say I saw little inner beauty either. 
I'm a bit gob smacked and feel I was meant to have met her tonight and have that conversation. 
I know she's not the OW in my marriage, but the conversation brought up huge emotions for me anyway.

I must have lived a very sheltered life, as I've never had a conversation like that before in my life.

She was the first to leave the party tonight, and I watched her go around the room and say goodbye to EVERY MALE in the room, and not one single female.  Says it all .................

[Stillpraying]

Kikki,
I think that was a great question to ask her.  That's probably why hse had to leave early.  Go and have time to think that one over 

[Still]

I asked how she felt about it, and she said it was a very easy thing to slip into, and as she has no respect whatsoever for relationships, she didn't feel any remorse for being involved with a married man with kids.

I think this is a very key sentence. People who become involved with married people are not thinking abouut anything, but their own personal needs. They don't think beyond the moment. The MLC'er is a vulnerable target for these individuals....whether they are seeking or being sought out. They are like teenagers whose momentary lapse of jugdment sends them in a downward spiral.

[Mamma Bear]

  Still Kiki..yeah and if we ask in the beginning "What are you doing to your life?"    They will respond  "None of your business. I'll do what I want it's my turn now."      Have at it, Einstein.  They need to learn life's lessons first hand. Pass the popcorn......OWs are messed up. I would feel sorry for them but she is messing with someone I care about so I won't.  I'll let Go and Let God.
   Oh I just remembered another "I met an OW story"   at work one day I was talking to a traveling pharmacist. I told her about my sitch.  She's about my age 50 ish.  She listened intently and then said...get ready... " Oh my boyfriend is married. You are so correct. If his wife was nice to him he would go home. She is always nasty."
    My jaw hit the ground. I'm thinking ' you are an ow a**hole."
   Crazy..Crazy...

[Synicca]

I can tell you.....people that mess around with married persons...have NO self respect.

My H told me yesterday, that his OW rants about ME...that I should "get a job" and take care of
myself and NOT ask HIM for ANYTHING concerning OUR D13.....

Really??? I just spent about 600.00 bucks on my D, when my H has spent 30.00 for pictures and OW threw
a temper tantrum!!!

Money hungy woman!!! She has NO job and FEEDS off of MY H's MONEY!! grrr Dont get me started....LOL!!

[Mamma Bear]

  yeah don't get her started..Trust me on this one..LOL  She'll have me mapquesting Wolcott NY and driving over there.
  I'll dress like a pizza delivery girl and pretend I'm at the wrong house. Ok ? Syn? I'll find out the REAL sitch.  and I'm sure it's all rose petals and a million candle all around.like on the Soap Operas.   NOT!

[Synicca]

You'll find him sitting on the couch with OW pointing her finger at him yelling about HOW he wont file for Divorce
and that I am his Princess wife and I am the bomb and SHE is the ow!! hehehe

listen for that raspy scratchy voice coming from Apartment #39..cant miss it!! LOL!!

[Standing in Patience]

I have also met another woman in passing. I was shopping and resting at one of the benches the mall and got to talking with another woman who requested to sit next to me while she waiting for someone to arrive. This was about a year ago. Anyways I asked if she was awaiting a husband or children to return. She hesitated and then she said boyfriend, hesitated again and then I got the sense that she really couldn't say but she said that she wasn't married. It was not a typical relationship - I could just sense it. Sometime about her said that she was uncomfortable. And it wasn't because we were casually talking.
 
Anyways it occurred to me (and perhaps her) that it was one of those moments when you know you are going to meet someone only for a short time and then probably never again (on an airplane, train, bus, you get what I mean).

I read between the lines through the 20 minute convo with her... eventually I figure it out -she was an affair partner and had him wrapped around her little finger. ..he was so cute and smart, he adored her. I saw that she was in her mid 40's perhaps. She intimated that she just agreed with him and catered to his needs and do just about anything he wanted toot suite. Anyway, he finally arrived and he looked like any joe shmoo to me. Yes, it was wearing a wedding ring.

[Mamma Bear]

  Probably one of our Hs

[Standing in Patience]

I reread my last sentence. I thought I posted "he" was wearing a wedding ring after editing it. I guess "it" wasn't changed after all. Maybe it was meant to be an "it"....he he.