[mof2]

I'm a dork...sorry crazyjourney

[OldPilot]

So OP, does that mean he will never regret his decision considering he is finding it so easy to stay away?

Yes but it wont be on your time schedule.

Does a pot of water on the stove boil faster with the lid on or off?
If you keep looking inside the pot what so you think will happen?

[Glimmer]

mof2

My H is a clinging boomerang.  He has hardly missed a day visiting in three and a half years, (although he HAD to leave cos he was bored)
He has still not spoken to his parents or siblings about any of this.  Anything  they want  to know, they just ask me. The only thing they do know is that they no longer recognise the person he has become.

Believe me, having a boomerang is nothing to be jealous of, it just makes it harder to detach because they never stay away long enough.

In the long run though,  I don't think it matters which type of MLCer they are, they still have to work through it  to the end.

[crazyjourney]

Mof2

You are certainly not a dork, you sound to me like a very nice normal caring wife who suddenly finds her h has taken leave of his senses and has left you reeling.

It takes a long time to get it all into perspective and then some more and some days you slide back and think you are nuts to believe it all.

What can I say it has to be mlc.

x

[mof2]

I don't even know any of you personally, but love you to pieces and hate that you all have had to endure this pain as well.  I just pray that all of you have a blessed future and that you receive the wonderful love that you all deserve.  It just turns my stomach as to how selfish and horrible people can be.  Thanks

[CrazyStupidLove]

Mof2... I would trade places with you in a heartbeat. Having a CB or B (which some days mine is a clinger other days just a boomerang) is exhausting to say the least. Mine still uses his key to let himself in at anytime he pleases. Me and the girls have woken up in the morning to find him in our home, helping himself to whatever he wants. He has never respected my privacy, and I have to be careful of what I am wearing or not wearing as im getting ready for work in the morning. At the beginning of the MLC he would show up in the middle of the night and try to sleep with me until I put a stop to that.  He comes by to check the mail almost daily, which he lives with the OW so not sure why he doesnt forward the mail. He is attached to a big yellow lab dog that we have and spends a lot of time bathing him, buying treats and checking up on him. He usually can't go more than a week without texting me about something unimportant. I think that is his way of checking on me to see if I respond. Usually I will. I have been dealing with constant boomerang for 4 years and I'm wishing he would just vanish at this point. Detaching from someone like what I have now, is next to impossible. 

I have thought about doing my own vanishing act at some point soon just to get away from this. It is not good for your emotional health to deal with someone who is so confused and is basically living two separate lives and eating a whole lot of cake while he's at it.

[Trustandlove]

I'm not sure what mine is any more; was a 'regular' boomerang for a long time, but now seems to be doing a vanishing act.  I know he is still alive, but we haven't seen him for nearly 3 months now; the kids have had the odd text and one call.  Legal monster is going on, though, so I'm really not sure what is happening. 

[toughtimes]

I'm not sure what mine is, he comes once a week to look after the kids, stays Tuesday night and I make myself scarce. Other than that he just wants a divorce and to come out of this not stinking of $hit so he is making me take the blame for the breakdown of the marriage. He has become hugely successful professionally since he left me a year ago and sees that as vindication for his leaving me. I held him back and made him incredibly unhappy.

He has never once, since 5th may 2012 made any sign that he misses me or likes me or can stand me.

Is he a boomerang?

[Trustandlove]

Yes, I believe that is classic boomerang, one who comes each week.  I don't think it's supposed to mean that he comes for us, necessarily -- those are the clingers. 

And something that was pointed out to me -- it was in an article that someone copied somewhere here (clear, huh?):

If the MLCer thinks that the LBS is so awful, why leave the kids with them at all?? 

[CrazyStupidLove]

Does anyone have any idea of "why" they boomerang?

Is it just hard for them to fully let go?

Is it just about the kids and making sure they get them to 18 so they can say that they raised the kid?

Lately my Boomerangs seems to make it only about the kids. Like a few of you have commented about your B's not giving any affection, attention, or any indication that they even like you....I feel that as well. Sometimes I feel like he does try to be friendly and be more like a friend, but then I think...I don't need friends like this.