[StandandDeliver]

Mine should have lost his job when his affair with OW was going on (before BD). He was constantly skipping work and missing meetings for their sordid "romantic"  afternoons in cheap hotels (very nice). But lucky for him he is part of an employee delegation to the government of the country that he lives in, so they it is VERY hard for them to fire him. He did get reprimanded (how embarrassing at senior management level, you say? no, no, my MLCers shame is hidden so deep beneath a veil of self pity - his colleaugues didn't understand him ).

After he moved out I think his job performance took a serious nose-dive and even now, when he bothers talking to me at all, he usually mentions being unhappy in his job. When he left I told him we could not afford for him to lose his job. We will see what happens...

[Chrysalis]

My ex has always been hopeless administratively at work but I used to remind him about things.  I don't do that anymore and he has messed up on more than one occasion with people not knowing where he is or not arranging cover, etc.

He was staying up until ridiculous hours before BD to get work done (as well as emailing OW as it turns out) and it looks like he is doing just the same now.  Apparently he has sent emails at 1:30am, 3:00am and then gets into work late (which he has always done).

Apparently he completely messed up on a project just before BD which I have only learned about recently.  I suspect it was because he was too busy meeting up with OW when he was supposed to be working at home!

[kikki]

Quote from Umare:
I have a feeling they lose their jobs due to not being able to perform to the level that they use to because there mind is full of fog.


I think this is very true.  My H is a freelancer, so it allows him a great deal of freedom and he's not working with the same people every day.
I remember reading somewhere that so many of them lose their jobs because they no longer care what they say to anyone.

Their social filters must be 'off' in all areas of their lives.  Work is merely another. 
I am amazed that H has managed to keep working at the pace that he has but it is his addiction.  It's one of the few things that he's hung onto in his sinking ship.  Plus, he gets enormous amount of ego stroking from it - so of course he will keep going YICK!

[watching and waiting]

My H is into his 3rd job since BD,
The second one only lasted about 2 days....
The fog thickens and he cannot function.
Wonder if this one will last?

HUGS

[Searching]

I just found out my husband was just promomoted to a job he has been wanting and working toword for a long time.  I don't see him so I have no idea of his work ethic these days.  I know he had to interview for the job so maybe his mask is really good.  He is a workaholic and his assistant protects and covers for him. I was told right after BD 3/11 that he would lock himself in his office for hours and not talk to anyone and also would go to bar after work and drink his dinner.  I asked assistant about it and she said no he is fine. I thought she was my friend also but I found out differently later. 

Searching

[Synicca]

My H almost lost his job....ended up only working 2 days a week the last month before he was told he needed to straighten
up...but, The deep depression really prevented him from properly functioning as he has to "think" being a
Industrial computer programmer and designer...so I guess his job he has to think 3 steps ahead, like chess?

He would have gotten fired if he didnt force himself to go. I really think the depression gets them stuck with their jobs.
They just cant function on any normal level.

[Anjae]

What profit a man if he gain the whole world but lose his own soul?

No profit at all. But they are unable to realise they are losing their soul. To them, they are having the world.

[Dontgiveup]

"What profit a man if he gain the whole world but lose his own soul?"

Very good scripture.  Mark 8:36.

[dollard]

xh is unemployed since Jan 2011
for the past four years he has gone through three different companies.
In 2008  before our divorce, he was taking long lunch hours ( a few times taking me out behind ow back, and confessed going home to sleep) going inot work late and leaving early.
I do think the fog is thick.
I emember him telling me, he does not know what career he should chose, among the many was a politician, an actor he even mentioned a taxi driver.

[Mamma Bear]

 Dollard That's funny. Mine was talking about taking helicopter flying lessons right before BD. I think I must've laughed in his face.