[Mamma Bear]

 Faithled and Covenant Keeper Hugs for you! So sad for you that today is your anniversary.  I guess I really do believe that your Hs remember that day fondly as well.  I pray that all this MLC has a positive outcome. I know it hurts.  Something good shall come from all our sorrow.  That is faith and hope.    Hugs again. MB

[Rebel Yell]

Wow, lots of anniversaries in Sept. Mine is the 26th. Last year I got her sky diving gift cirt. and a card.
This year I think it's just a card. Maybe dinner. My wife is in contact with me daily and we almost act
as if we are boyfriend girlfriend. almost. Yet I know she is still deep in MLC.

[ladybird]

I am very sad today as it is my 20th anniversary and yesterday my H had me served with the divorce papers- I was a total wreck yesterday!!!  I will see him tonight but I doubt we will be celebrating anything.  He wants to trade cars as he is going out of town for a week starting on Sunday.  We saw each other yesterday just a few hours after I got served the papers and he cried a bit when I talked to him, but he doesn't think it will ever work between us.  I am going to update my thread with all the details but I have to say that today I am in a weird head space because while I am trying not to have any hope right now, at the same time I do think that there is a part of him that has not let go of me which in turn makes me think there could be a chance in the future....since he is still in a MLC after all!   

[MsZing]

my wedding anniversary isnt till Jan 15 but this is something I have been thinking off as well. I sort of feel that as that will be the last anniversary before we are divorced( D will be final 8 Dec 2012) it seems significant to say Happy Anniversay. I do think it will be very emotional though

I'm doing it for me, but I think another part of me wants to see if H says anything about it when I txt the message.

Maybe by that time, still 4 months away, I will feel different and do nothing

[faithled]

I cried alot the night before, and checked my e-mail many times the day of......nothing.  I worked on my anniversary, and just got back from taking my 3 boys out for a nice dinner to celebrate all the positives.  My oldest bought me a glass of wine.
All I know is, I feel weak and saD RIGHT NOW AND THAT IS O.K. I WILL MAKE THE BEST OF IT WITHOUT HIM RIGHT NOW.

faithled
Hugs to all of you

[Glimmer]

24th July 2010 was the first wedding anniversary we spent apart since the onset of MLC.

As it happens myself and our 2Ds were due to go on holiday that day with all of Hs family except him.  The day before we went, he told me with a smile on his face that 'by the way I haven't forgotten what day it is tomorrow'  I replied by telling him that it was just another day, and that I hadn't thought about it. To which he replied 'Oh, I admire your way of thinking'!!

This year though, it passed without a mention from anyone.  As for H, the first person he would have seen on our anniversary this year was OW, even though he did visit and spend the day with us. 

[wondering]

November will be our 20 year anniversary. We will  on our boat in the Caribbean. That may sound nice but it means very little to him. Last yrs. anniversary was 3 months after bomp drop. We were also on our boat in the Carribean. He toasted our day right in front of friends, all the while he was deep in his affair. It was just words to him as it will be this year. This year, I believe, will not be much different except that I'm more aware that it will be possible our last. Life is weird but I'm not going to let it get to me. It's just another day. We never did the whole card and flower things. H just never was much of a romantic.

[Musica]

Ours is 4th October ... don't think he'll remember it though. I always had to remind him of things like that, birthdays etc. He didn't remember last year I don't think ... I gave him a card then. I'll probably send an e-mail this year late afternoon if I don't hear anything. Well maybe ... not sure yet. But no present.

[Freddygone]

It is a long time now since BD and discovering the affair in June 2009. It started as EA in February 2007 apparently. I have been gone since January 2010 working away. Our 31st Anniversary was July 12th. I sent her a card in 2010 and this year a text saying Happy Anniversary and that I was thinking about her. I got a lovely text in reply saying that she had spent all day thinking about me and our happy years together.
Hmm, what does that mean other than just what it says.
Now communication has gone due to a misunderstanding by lawyers, so we dont communicate. My daughter last week was home and told me that there was a 'significant change' in her Mum. She says she is talking finally, saying how she has screwed up her life, 'is at rock bottom' as she has no money. But she lives in the family home all paid for, and 1200 a month to spend.
My daughter tells me that she is having one month without OM. I find that hard to believe after 4 years.
I really don't understand what is going on. Don't know what to do really.  Next week I am going back for a Financial hearing. I will listen I think. Just listen.

[Musica]

Wow, she gets 1200 a month and she's got no money?? My H gives me 400 a month and I have 2 kids at home ... how do I manage, IDK ... but I do! I got to haven't I  ... no alternative. Luckily, it seems that just when you really need something ... it arrives in one form or another, God will provide, or it always seems to work that way. Sounds like your W is getting to a place of understanding her mistakes, hope so.  You are a good guy FG xx