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#90: June 04, 2015, 10:25:56 AM
Love this article thanks so much for posting   now i have a little bit more understanding What H is going through
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Re: Signs of Depression during MLC
#91: June 16, 2015, 04:20:32 PM
Bump for latest newbies.
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Re: Signs of Depression during MLC
#92: July 17, 2015, 12:09:57 PM
Thank you I have read this 6or 7 times today very insightful
Helpful and relevant to my h. Helping me to not feel so alone
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Re: Signs of Depression during MLC
#93: July 18, 2015, 04:10:15 AM
Thankyou thats just what I needed to read today. I could tick nearly every box for my h. Xxx
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Re: Signs of Depression during MLC
#94: July 18, 2015, 03:22:56 PM
For all of you out there who have just gotten to read this thread, I must share this:
My MLcer is an at home wallower (5 months since BD). The happier I am, the more confused he gets. So much so, that he passive aggressively does things to try to get under my skin. I am learning how to bypass almost anything (I never ask him to do anything, because he will say he will do it, but doesn't).

The other day, I was cleaning the bathroom and humming and grinning, and he had to leave the house. He thinks if he is unhappy, I MUST be unhappy, too. He cannot stand it that I am happy, because that means his unhappiness is HIS.

So all you newbies, go find something, anything that makes you TRULY happy. It's good for you, and throws his issues back on his own plate.

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Re: Signs of Depression during MLC
#95: July 18, 2015, 03:26:55 PM
Hi offroad

have you seen the 180 rules
https://beingabeautifulmess.wordpress.com/the-180/

 its very much like you are doing, of course it works better for those with H at home
or in regular contact so keep it up  :)
 
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Re: Signs of Depression during MLC
#96: September 12, 2015, 04:51:23 PM
I have a question. At some point in MLC does the depression go away permanently? Or does it not resolve until they are fully out of the tunnel and have faced their final fears? Or is this something they will still battle on and off their whole lives unrelated to MLC?

Just wondering because based on the things my H says I can tell he is deep in depression and probably has battled it most of his life. I am interested to know if it will go away after MLC, if that makes any sense..

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Re: Signs of Depression during MLC
#97: September 12, 2015, 06:47:34 PM
Never,

The depression you see now is but a small taste of the depression stage.  When j went through that stage, it was unbelievably bad. 

Even then, when he is now long out of the tunnel, he still has to take medicine for depression.  He is still 're learning normal as opposed to depressive thinking.

Some counter the depression in replay by being manic~ high energy replayers. Others just wallow.   

Many people mistake normal MLC depression for the depression stage.  The real depression stage is intense and horrendous.   It is short lived.  For some Its so bad they have to choose to live or die.  I am sorry I don't know your story, but if BD was less than a year or 2 ago, he is likely not in the real depression stage so what you see is only a small taste of what is to come.

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Re: Signs of Depression during MLC
#98: September 12, 2015, 07:09:15 PM
Yep I remember one time the girls and I were laughing and happy in the kitchen and the ex actually ran out of the house. :o
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Re: Signs of Depression during MLC
#99: September 13, 2015, 01:50:32 AM
Mine ran off down South on Christmas Day the first year. Try explaining that to three little kids.

Oh well, what doesn't kill you ....
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