[Thundarr]

Thanks Tsunami for the thread, first off.

Secondly, as Honour and DGU have mentioned this site is fairly new and most of us are in the earlier stages of this crap.  But, some here have been around awhile on other sites.  I posed the question on my thread but never got an answer:

For those who have spent time on DB, PathPartners, the infidelity sites and others are there many marriages that end up reconciled?  If so, are many of them with female MLCers and what has been your experience in these cases on how long it has taken?  I think OP, LG, DGU and maybe even RCR herself might have some insight into this.  Anyone?

[OldPilot]

They do happen, I posted one about Upside from the DB board, on the stickied thread.
I also am reading another one on another board right now.
This girl used to post on DB but was banned.
Meanwhile she is about 4-5 years post BD and her EX-H is reaching out to her right now.
She has been so badly hurt that she really does not want anything to do with him.

He is looking for foregiveness but I am not sure what will happen.
Oh BTW the LBS does not believe in MLC, she just thinks it was plain infidelity.
So I am watching with interest.

I think as I have stated before the success stories and endings are with a whimper not a bang.
We have 4 or more going on from this board right now.
Patience, Hyperglad, Courageous Wife, Anglegirl.

I know others that are success stories from other boards too.
What the percentages are I have no idea.
It does seem that the LBS's mostly give up before their is a chance.
Why is that?

[LearningIamOk]

 Inthisforthelonghaul is also attempting reconciliation with her xH.

[Tsunami]

Some post from DB in regards to the Depression Topic and Post....

Signs of Depression #1
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1490616#Post1490616

Signs of Depression #2
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1505866#Post1505866

Signs of Depression #3
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1519442#Post1519442

[believe]

For those who have spent time on DB, PathPartners, the infidelity sites and others are there many marriages that end up reconciled?  If so, are many of them with female MLCers and what has been your experience in these cases on how long it has taken?  I think OP, LG, DGU and maybe even RCR herself might have some insight into this.  Anyone?

Hi Thundarr, PP orphan here and lurker across the MLC boards for the past three years since DB. At the time of Pathpartners implosion there were 5 - 6 Male LBS's in recon on the board, about 30 Male LBS's early in the process and about 8 old timers providing wisdom (almost all of which had moved on to another partner fairly quickly, i.e. not standers).

There are/were a number of male LBS's on DB in recon.

So it does happen (guess your early in the process figuring out if its worth Standing through the destruction?)

Timelines varied, the guides (2 - 7, and 3 - 5 years) on here mirror those sites.

The majority of Males LBS seem to move on when the MCLers replay behaviours are at their worst.

[OldPilot]

Hi Thundarr, PP orphan here and lurker across the MLC boards for the past three years since DB. At the time of Pathpartners implosion there were 5 - 6 Male LBS's in recon on the board, about 30 Male LBS's early in the process and about 8 old timers providing wisdom (almost all of which had moved on to another partner fairly quickly, i.e. not standers).

There are/were a number of male LBS's on DB in recon.

So it does happen (guess your early in the process figuring out if its worth Standing through the destruction?)

Timelines varied, the guides (2 - 7, and 3 - 5 years) on here mirror those sites.

The majority of Males LBS seem to move on when the MCLers replay behaviours are at their worst.

Hey believe, welcome to our board, both RCR and I had posted on PP and DB.
RCR was/is Penelope and I had the same name.

Hope you can share some of your wisdom here and let us know if we can help you at all.

[believe]

Hi Oldpilot, thanks for the warm welcome, I went under a different name on PP ( a much more pathetic, just been bombed type name ! ). Changed that to a more positive one  afterall it has been over three years. Not sure about any wisdom but if I see anything I can assist with I'll add my two cents worth.

You'll probably question why I'm on the boards, we'll my little mlcer seems to be coming out of replay and this forum seems like a decent home for me, plus I'm re-reading resources so that I can navigate this new stage.

[kikki]

Bumping this up

[honour]

Hi Thundarr, PP orphan here and lurker across the MLC boards for the past three years since DB. At the time of Pathpartners implosion

I'm not sure it imploded, I think it was terminated as a damage limitation exercise for the founder who was clearly revealing she was still in MLC.

The majority of Males LBS seem to move on when the MCLers replay behaviours are at their worst.

I have noticed that trend difference between the sexes with regard to standing and how to cope with an MLCer. On PP the guys that were in recon had pretty much adopted a Thermo Nuclear stance right from the off. A tough love stance. The delusion bubble was popped early on. With my W I believe there was a brief window early on where there was a chance she may have got better if I had adopted a TN approach and shone light into the darkness. But I didn't know that then and the days and weeks passed and she descended deeper and eventually vanished.

Whereas here, where the majority members are female and the MLCers are male, the advice is often "do not talk of D to the MLCer" or "no R talk". Be a lighthouse for him to find his way back.

I am not saying either approach is wrong or right, I am just noting the difference between the sexes.

Welcome believe, please keep us updated with your W's exit from Replay.

honour

[OldPilot]

I'm not sure it imploded, I think it was terminated as a damage limitation exercise for the founder who was clearly revealing she was still in MLC.

Is that what happened?
WOW I did not know that, as I did not really have time to pay attention to everything happening on that board.

I thought she had recovered from her MLC.