[StandandDeliver]

Sorry, yes, I suppose it may be a cultural thing because where I am from "holier than thou" is not really a religious slur but has become more of a idiom meaning that someone has taken a sanctimonious attitude (which could be towards a person, or a topic or anything really). I really did not want to suggest that the person posting was by nature, a santimonious person. I think that what I actually referred to as "holier than thou" was not the poster but the poster's argument, but I don't want to be a total pedant, I just hate to be misunderstood...

[Mitzpah]

FWIW, S&D - I understood!

[Anjae]

Thank you, RCR. My saying of it to be a comedy and a high drama was not funny, it was just what I read in it.  Maybe a tragic-comedy and high drama would had been more appropriated.

If I did not find it a comedy at BD?...Well, in a way, I did. It was all so absurd at it had traces of comedy, with lots of hurt and sadness.

Again, for the privacy issue, the correspondence was exchange from mine and my husband joint projects emails accounts. Every corresponde in those accounts belongs to both of us. This did not came from his, or OW, private email accounts. But from husband's and mine joint email accounts.

I'm very sorry if some of you find it upseting but the porpuse is/was just so that we can have a view into the situation.

[Synicca]

I just wanted to jump on here for a sec....

I dont think there is to much wrong with writing out here like Annej did with her H's texts/emails.

So far I have ran across a handful of letters and cards from OW to Honey...I HAVE read them...he left them out for the whole world to see...I also would eventually put them on here too...I think it tells alot about the OW/H sitch.

I have read many articles now on personality disorders...and when I read OW's letters to H, I can see her disorder in them.
so its for informational purposes in my book. Its understanding the dynamics of the R. Can be very telling for a LBS who compares
themselves to the OP..which should not be done by the way.

just my .02

[In this for ME]

I agree with LG and Syn

[Red Star]

AnneJ, thank you for posting the convos. Reading the exchange, especially the words of the OP, is an eye opener to the nature of the R. It's obviously burning hot with self indulgent infatuation. The shelf life is short.

There is NO doubt in my mind that this information is helpful to a LBS, once they have their bearings.

Thanks!
BeStar

[Anjae]

Thanks OP. Since there seems to be a big interest on the other person, this is an old thread from when, back in the autumn of 2011, I found the correspondence of Mr and mostly OW1, when I was keeping files on the computer.

MLCers do tend to forget they have left a trace of evidence all around. Hope this helps bring some more light in how the dynamics of MLCer and OW/OM affairs work.

[Lost]

...and the dynamics of the LBS.... In hindsight we see how this is not at all love, but just infatuation, but when we get these infos around BD, they hurt like hell since the LBS hears from all sides comments like 'sometimes people just fall in love', declaring suddenly MLC-OW love as the real love. Took me like 18 months before I would just scoff: LOVE? Pfft, just lies and lies and infatuation. I read a few emails between H and OW around 3 weeks after BD, before I (really) knew what MLC was, and they were completely adolescent, but I was hurt like hell. Now at nearly 2 years post BD it just makes me sad how a man gives up living with his children, not to say raise them, being an exemple/hero to them (I am even taking me out of the equation) due to this superficial crap.

At the same time there is so much 'truth' in these emails, how the MLCler feel, like 'Young again', 'like a teenager', or just 'I feel again'. Just so sad really. How the OW does not realize this is beyond me. Either complete naivity or trying to profit from something.

[SSG]

Exactly Lost.
I am not in it as long as you (BD coming up on one year). 

But I can now read the 7000+ FB messages between the two and just shake my head.  OW is 46 but acting part juvenile/pt emotional manipulator.

One sticks out in my head:  OW - Ewwww, I feel like I am 15 and in love for the first time!

 

SG

[lawprofessor]

Hi All!

These emails must be about the same as the ones I have between Genius and the little girl.  When I read them I could not believe the childish nonsense.  "I would never do that to you."  "The world is so hard on gentle souls like you."  "I will have to come and kick her a$$ (me) if she keeps being mean to you."  "I can't just can't face leaving you."  "What would my life be without you?"  "How can I face getting out of bed in the morning if you are not there to hold me up?" 

BLAH! BLAH! BLAH!  GAG! GAG! Page after page of this sewage.  Genius is a professional victim.  Thank heaven I am a passenger on that crazy train anymore!