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Technicalities no?  Cell phone is in my name... Just cant be bothered anymore... As they say... how do you know and MLCer is lying?

Dont need to read the txts the emails or anything to know....  I have a nephew of a friend who is.. well emotionally stunted and he scratches his head and says out loud... hrmmm that does not make sense...

Me.

[Anjae]

Technicalities, maybe.  But in court it does make a difference.  Oh, you know they are lying without the need to see a single email or text.

I just found it funny that while I was all sad and sorry for what had happened, husband was really being nuts. It makes me grrrr...why did I bother with him?... Why did I got so hurt?...He had just lost it!... But, of course, he hurt.

After all this years this correspondence is amuzing! And entertaining! On the other hand, it is sad. See such, before MLC, serious sane person gotten into this...

[ziggee]

Technicalities maybe... but it dont mean shiet in the grand scheme of things does it... Is that how one spells shiet?  Maybe I am silly... but take me for everything i have... I will build it again... You can't take me and my soul... I am what I am and that aint stuff..

That is probably naive... better make sure i get a lawyer that is less naive then me...

Me.

[Love being on higher grounds]

OK, So Im just gonna come out and say it...

This thread is just so WRONG!

I dont believe that reading all of this stuff will help anyone...even if it is claimed to be amusing...it is SICK!

I would not want stuff that I had written, no matter what the circumstance, posted all over the internet for anyone to read.

I would truly suggest reading the information on this site, for what it is intended...to learn about MLC, and to accept help on how to cope with it all...

I would even go as far as saying that without permission from these people, I would be concerned of the legality of posting it all so freely...I know several people who have had their posting come back and slap them in the face when it came time to head into court...just something to think about...

hugs,
L

[OldPilot]

OK, So Im just gonna come out and say it...

This thread is just so WRONG!

I dont believe that reading all of this stuff will help anyone...even if it is claimed to be amusing...it is SICK!

I would not want stuff that I had written, no matter what the circumstance, posted all over the internet for anyone to read.

I would truly suggest reading the information on this site, for what it is intended...to learn about MLC, and to accept help on how to cope with it all...

I would even go as far as saying that without permission from these people, I would be concerned of the legality of posting it all so freely...I know several people who have had their posting come back and slap them in the face when it came time to head into court...just something to think about...

hugs,
L

YUP I agree

[ziggee]

I agree 100% but at the time it was like a scab that just had to be picked... I am much more balanced about life now that I dont... :/

[honour]

I would even go as far as saying that without permission from these people, I would be concerned of the legality of posting it all so freely...I know several people who have had their posting come back and slap them in the face when it came time to head into court...just something to think about...

You did give me something to think about...are we not all anonymous? Is it possible to trace who we are and what we post?

honour

[StandandDeliver]

Hmmm. Interesting, I don't know about the other people's correspondance, but the points that I wrote about were not verbatim copy and paste from an email - I did not invade H's privacy. (I did not keep the correspondance that I read and at the time I read it in front of H because I had his permission (strangely)  so it is just from my memory, just like when I have posted stuff that H said). Also, we are anonymous I was simply trying to demonstrate that the level of depth in the affair relationship is very superficial, which may help some people who are trying to understand how their long term partner with whom a deep relationship had been formed over years could believe that they are in love with someone else because they understand each other's laundry issues (sorry facetious). It does demonstrate the crisis element in all of this. And actually, in some ways it is funny. I often read things on here that I think are in bad taste and they are not always the same as what other people think. I don't know if there is anything illegal about remembering something that your H let you read and telling people. And if talking about what my H has or has not done or said is off limits, then the whole topic of MLC should be off limits. Which I think is a bit OTT.

I actually never did any snooping. To this day, I have never even driven past H's new apartment (well, never knowingly). I did not read his phone without his permission, I have never snooped on his email. To be honest, if I was someone who was more inclined to do these things then maybe I would have found out things about H long before I did and saved myself SOME heartache.

So please, maybe this thread is not helpful, but then neither is the holier than thou, quasi legal argument against it...

[OldPilot]

I would even go as far as saying that without permission from these people, I would be concerned of the legality of posting it all so freely...I know several people who have had their posting come back and slap them in the face when it came time to head into court...just something to think about...

You did give me something to think about...are we not all anonymous? Is it possible to trace who we are and what we post?

Yes but NO, my wife has stalked me on 5 different websites, including this one.
There is another moderator here whose husband wanted to use her posts to PROVE something in court.

MLC'ers are manipulative, devious, controlling people, if they want to know something bad enough they will figure it out.

Everything written here is public domain and can be found by a simple google search.

The only thing protecting you is your user name, and if you are writing anything about your sich then it is pretty easy to figure out who you are, especially if you are married to that person.

I think what she has written is a valid concern.

[ziggee]

You did give me something to think about...are we not all anonymous? Is it possible to trace who we are and what we post?

honour

I would have to say regardless of what you think... you are fare less anonymous then we all like to think and hope.  The things you can do with google are insane.  I am a techy myself and I am pretty sure that if I put my mind to it depending on how much people post and what they say... I could probably track someone down of visa versa.  Not that I ever would, but given the right technical skills and what not.  Forms + Facebook + other online social networking.  As for myself I am not worried about my anonymity very much.  I hope that does scare people too much into what they do or do not post.