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OP: October 21, 2011, 10:10:31 PM
 Now I am just curious... I have seen a lot of scripture references and a a lot of other religious connotations... So I am guessing... made up number here... but 2/3 of people who seem to be standing have some kind of biblical reference or point of view.  Is this just my delusion.  I know this is not an exclusive case.

My Wife's father was a preacher and a fairly famous... or is it infamous... what ever the case may be,...  I am currently struggling in light of the current situation but I have found it interesting the number of references... I am thinking in general standars have some kind of religious background.  Not always and I sure as heck dont offend anyone by these statements


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Re: Church
#1: October 21, 2011, 10:18:46 PM
I think you're right Ziggee.  I went to Church growing up, but haven't since. 
Guess you'd call me spiritual these days.

Think standing is often based on personal ethics and sincerity and intuition.  Have you heard of the four personality types?
I started a poll a while ago to see if there was any link.
I had a hunch that a lot of us were Idealists (turned out to be true), with Guardians coming a close second.
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Re: Church
#2: October 21, 2011, 10:21:22 PM
Hey Zig,

My W and I were born Catholic and have raised our kids in the faith.  Funny thing is that the months before BD my W completely turned against and began mocking the church.  As RCR has stated (and DGU has referenced many times) one of the battles the MLCer fights is against their faith.  According to our faith, no earthly judge can break our marriage as it was joined by God.  Only an annulment would cause us to not be married in the eyes of the church.   Both sets of parents were Catholic and neither of our parents divorced, but we each have at least one sibling who did.  My W used to say that she did not believe in D, and neither did I.  But, she filed for it BEFORE BD and later mocked and laughed at me for saying it was sinful and not what God wants. 

Strangely, even though she has mocked my (and our once-shared) religious beliefs (and a couple stories are too horrific to put on a lighthearted thread but they're included in mine), she always tells the kids that they SHOULD go to church with me on the weekends and she wants them brought up in the faith and even attending CCD classes now that they no longer go to Catholic school.  MlC craziness for sure.
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Re: Church
#3: October 21, 2011, 10:23:43 PM
Both my H and I have a strong faith background. 
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#4: October 21, 2011, 10:24:32 PM
My wife has not only turned her back... she ridicules my oldest daughter who has expressed an interest in going at least twice a month.. Welcome to the life of Hosea heh :/

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Re: Church
#5: October 21, 2011, 10:26:34 PM
My H has turned his back but he doesn't say anything negative about me taking the kids to church, etc.  I am very thankful for that.
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#6: October 21, 2011, 10:31:12 PM
My H has turned his back but he doesn't say anything negative about me taking the kids to church, etc.  I am very thankful for that.

Awesome... Now I have a pretty diverse song choice... and my fathers favorite song to song in the shower is was how great thow art... and my purely random song selector...iTunes (blah free marketing for Apple) just picked Elvis singing how great thou art...

Oh wait... just switched to Dire straits... Romeo and Juliet...

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Re: Church
#7: October 22, 2011, 03:46:54 AM
My H and I are both Christians who have raised our children in a Christian home. He quit attending church over a year ago. He has told me that God would not give him answers to his prayers.....which apparently was a return of his feelings for me.
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Re: Church
#8: October 22, 2011, 04:18:43 AM
My husband is catholic, both parents attended mass every week, I converted at the age of 27. We attended mass pretty much every week together for 35years. When I tried to ask him how he could justify this he told Nernst God wanted him to be happy.

My faith has grown stronger throughout this.....I don't think he gets to mass as regularly as he is always traveling but Ithink he still considers himself a "good catholic boy".
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Re: Church
#9: October 22, 2011, 05:05:18 AM
We are both Christians, we go to the Episcopal Anglican Church.
His background is Roman Catholic and mine is evangelical. At BD he suggested that he felt forced to go to church with me 32 years ago! When I asked if he had sought God's guiding, he said he had and that he felt that God wanted him to be happy. He still went to church with me for a month or so after BD and then stopped entirely.
The children are now reluctant to go to church and generally don't go any more with the exception of middle son (he was cured from cancer, so maybe that makes a difference for him).
Interestingly, when h. was at the house picking up stuff for his apartment on a Sunday, he saw that d16 was asleep when she would have been at church with me. He asked eldest s19 why she hadn't gone to church ???
I cannot mention the subject because he reacts manic like and smiles saying that he is following God's will for his life.
He sent me a couple of chain e-mails with biblical references in them and I replied to one, pointing out the incorrections in the references, but inserting blessings for him. I never received another one ??? ???
So, yes, Conway is absolutely correct and in my opinion, this is also a spiritual battle.
I believe God wants me to be a stander for His glory and name, not my will but His.
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