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#50: November 25, 2012, 09:43:29 AM
Haven't seen any new stories here for a while.

My not very close friend's husband, definitely mlc, ran off w. work colleague, blah, blah, blah...wife got herself another job & moved out & on about 3 months ago.  I think he has been gone about a year but affair started 4 years ago.

He's wants to work on the marriage.

She is non-committal at this point. 

It is probably a touch-n-go but still.  I'll keep you posted.
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#51: December 13, 2012, 08:03:51 AM
Just saw this story as a part of comments on the 12-12-12 date yesterday, don't know if it was MLC related, but it shows a couple who were divorced remarrying each other! :)
http://www.kval.com/news/local/Married-for-12-divorced-for-12---then-re-married-on-12-12-12-183229422.html
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#53: December 27, 2012, 11:51:36 AM
Not sure if we have ever posted her story here, although she has been discussed on the forum. Rachel Clark.
She divorced her husband and is now remarried to him.
Read about it here

http://www.psychologytoday.com/experts/rachel-clark
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#54: December 30, 2012, 10:51:06 AM
Yes, I've read her OP. There is also the book "I Do Again" by Cheryl Scruggs. Cheryl had had an affair and they divorced and then remarried 7 years later.
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#55: December 30, 2012, 11:14:42 AM
The I Do Again book is awesome. It really states what we have been saying all along. If you can stand waiting for years perhaps, it is very possible that your marriage can be rebuilt.  :D

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#56: March 01, 2013, 04:33:57 AM
I recently remembered another story which with hindsight I can see was MLC ....

When I was 18 my boyfriend's parents were not getting on. They slept in single beds in their room and barely spoke to each other. His mother had lost loads of weight (she had been anorexic but had settled down with weight watchers) she had an obsession with Mick Hucknall and walked a hell of a lot. My boyfriends Dad seemed a bit bemused, head down and get on with it sort of thing. He went overseas working a bit. His mum was very obviously wanting to leave her H but circumstances wouldn't allow ... they had three teen kids and not enough money to afford a separation. Anyway, I was with this guy for about 2.5 years and all that time things were frosty with his parents. However, later on I heard that things were loads better, they were loved up and had decided to radically change their lives! It all sorted itself out.

With hindsight I can so see that this was a MLC on her part. She wanted change and really seemed to 'hate' her H, she was moody with him, snappy and tried to kind of ignore him as much as she could. But they sorted things out and are now very happy. She never left but I think she would have if their circumstances had been different or if her crisis had been stronger, seems to have been a bit mild.


I heard another one the other day, girl dating a man in late thirties who was separated from his wife and two children. He said he and wife lived like friends and that there was no love or passion or R and that he was very unhappy with his wife. They dated for a year but then he returned to his wife and kids. Might not be MLC, not sure of any other details and certainly not sure of the actual timeline. But another example of confusion.
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#57: March 01, 2013, 06:44:22 AM
I want to share this story even though it did not result in a reconciliation.  I do believe now that it was MLC.........but didn't know anything about it then.  My sister recently shared this with me which she has kept to herself for nearly 20 years.  She knows all the details of MLC now since I'm experiencing it with my exH.  So, now she and I both believe this is what happened to her marriage. 

Her exH was in law enforcement when this happened.  He was involved in a very serious wreck which killed 3 other people.  He was seriously injured but survived the accident.  He was approximately 36-38 years old at the time.  Well, he eventually left his wife (my sister) and married the nurse from the hospital who tended to him during his stay.  This woman had been married 6 times already.....which he did not know.  But their marriage didn't last very long.......3 years maybe.  My sister just told me this week that her exH had written her a letter after his divorce from the OW.  He wanted to meet with her and talk.  My sister was still so filled with bitterness and anger that she refused to have anything to do with him.  She told me she threw the letter away and didn't meet up with him.  He later remarried for the 3rd time to a young girl half his age (same age as his youngest child).........that marriage ended after less than a year.  So, now ex-BIL is still single and alone. 

I think now my sister believes her exH went through a MLC and perhaps his attempt to return was sincere but she was so full of resentment and hate toward him for what he did that she didn't want any part of him.  Even though she turned him away it gives me more hope that these MLC'ers will eventually try to return or at least make attempts to find a way to finally receive forgiveness and peace for themselves.  I hope that perhaps others who read this will realize that it's not over and the LBS does have the last word..........more or less. 
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#58: March 04, 2013, 06:42:47 PM
"Let your hopes not your hurts shapes your future". Very nice post!


Quote from: LoveMyMan on March 01, 2013, 06:44:22 AM
I want to share this story even though it did not result in a reconciliation.  I do believe now that it was MLC.........but didn't know anything about it then.  My sister recently shared this with me which she has kept to herself for nearly 20 years.  She knows all the details of MLC now since I'm experiencing it with my exH.  So, now she and I both believe this is what happened to her marriage. 

Her exH was in law enforcement when this happened.  He was involved in a very serious wreck which killed 3 other people.  He was seriously injured but survived the accident.  He was approximately 36-38 years old at the time.  Well, he eventually left his wife (my sister) and married the nurse from the hospital who tended to him during his stay.  This woman had been married 6 times already.....which he did not know.  But their marriage didn't last very long.......3 years maybe.  My sister just told me this week that her exH had written her a letter after his divorce from the OW.  He wanted to meet with her and talk.  My sister was still so filled with bitterness and anger that she refused to have anything to do with him.  She told me she threw the letter away and didn't meet up with him.  He later remarried for the 3rd time to a young girl half his age (same age as his youngest child).........that marriage ended after less than a year.  So, now ex-BIL is still single and alone. 

I think now my sister believes her exH went through a MLC and perhaps his attempt to return was sincere but she was so full of resentment and hate toward him for what he did that she didn't want any part of him.  Even though she turned him away it gives me more hope that these MLC'ers will eventually try to return or at least make attempts to find a way to finally receive forgiveness and peace for themselves.  I hope that perhaps others who read this will realize that it's not over and the LBS does have the last word..........more or less.
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#59: March 15, 2013, 07:42:59 AM
This is not a return story but a quote from Divorce Busting.

Quote from: KarenR
Hi, thanks for this post. Michele says that about 15% of couples that get divorced remarry each other.
KarenR is a coordinator for coaching.
And Michelle is MWD.

My comment to this is the following:

How many of the 85% dont want anything to do with their spouses anymore?
So to me it sounds like pretty good odds.

In the end you will get to decide.
And if you have not gotten the chance to decide yet - well that is because you are not at the end yet.
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