[LaughLoveLive]

Another return story although not a happy one. At my book club this evening, a friend was telling of her aunt and uncle. Apparently uncle had a long term covert affair, on discovery aunt kicked him out, he begged to come home which she agreed to. Unfortunately it is apparently a horribly unhappytoxic situation...she is bitter and resentful...clearly no forgiveness or trust so perhaps so accountability or remorse. Those things are key, I think, to the marriage surviving such a betrayal.

[riverbirch]

My SIL told me a few months ago that her and my H dad had his own MLC.I guess he bought a motorcycle and my MIL found out that he had an OW.He had been giving her rides on the bike.MY MIL didnt take him having the OW,too well either and flipped out at the OW.
To look at this woman you would never know she was capable of having a temper like she had.
They did work things out and are still together today.

[hopeandfaith]

I once worked with a woman whose H left her and her 2 young children for a period of time (not sure how long) and moved in with an OW.  H returned when he saw cruise brochures on my friends coffee table and when OW started talking about starting a family. They are still together and eagerly awaiting the arrival of grandchildren.

[BennHurr]

an old friend of mine had his W leave for a guy in the church band who played guitar. They had a baby together, cant remember if they got married but eventually it broke up and she reached out to him to see if there was any chance of reconciliation. He had waited for her for years (4 i think) and just found a new girl as this happened so he wasnt open to reconciliation.
Well he married the new girl and she was a loonie and they broke up in a very short period and she took him for half of his house which she contributed very little towards. What a mess!!!

[FindingJoJo]

an old friend of mine had his W leave for a guy in the church band who played guitar. They had a baby together, cant remember if they got married but eventually it broke up and she reached out to him to see if there was any chance of reconciliation. He had waited for her for years (4 i think) and just found a new girl as this happened so he wasnt open to reconciliation.
Well he married the new girl and she was a loonie and they broke up in a very short period and she took him for half of his house which she contributed very little towards. What a mess!!!

He should have figured out his own issues while he was waiting and learned what drew him to those types of people to begin with.  It is sad that this happened to him twice.

[BennHurr]

yes i dont think he had access to this type of site or the many other good ones. he was a waiter rather than a stander.

[FindingJoJo]

yes i dont think he had access to this type of site or the many other good ones. he was a waiter rather than a stander.

The story still will inspire us to be a stander and to make sure we have done our work on our journey while our spouses go through their crisis.

[Stillpraying]

BennHurr,
My neighbour and her husband both taught in bible college.  He then left her (they had adult children) for the church music leader (he was the pastor!!) who is 20 years younger.  They have been married for I think 7 years now but according to son - law (also my neighbour) he does not appear happy.  They now pastor a church together 
It seems to me, some people get helped all the way along to do more damage.  Who knows how it may end in the future.

[Slow Fade]

Still Praying I certainly wouldn't want to be taught in a church by that man!!!!! How could he? How could she? I will never understand.

[FindingJoJo]

Tonight I talked with my Pastor.  In that discussion he told me about a man who had come to him a few weeks ago.  The man and the OW had started coming to our church, well as the discussions went my Pastor told the guy he had the answer because the guy didn't want to leave the OW as he felt she needed him.  The Pastor told him he wasn't her savior and he had the answer he needed and should talk to the OW.  Well apparently the OW was saved one night in our church and had already decided that she needed to go back to her mother's home and stop living with the man.  The man didn't know this but went home to tell the OW that he shouldn't be in the relationship anymore to find out that God had already paved the way for him to leave.  He called his wife and found out that in the three years he had been away she had found God too and was praying with her kids for their father and husband.  When the man left the wife she had no interest in God and lived a completely different lifestyle.  He didn't think that she would even talk to him but called anyway.  He ended up going to see her on a Sunday and found out about her finding God and praying for him.  He apologized to his kids and to her.  They are back together.  He called the Pastor and told him he didn't know what came over him, the feelings he thought he didn't have for his wife came back almost instantly and they are happier than they have ever been.  They are both saved, they attend church and he is home with his wife and kids.  I don't know all the intimate details but this was shared with me as my Pastor understood my stand. 

He at first thought maybe I should hope H would file and I told him my reasons why I didn't think that was right.  I told him how I liked our church because we didn't do divorce recovery and I wished we would do marriage restoration.  He happens to be reading quantum glory which further describes the power of prayer, which I have been doing for a while now.  He fully understands why it is so important to work for marriage and he has a testimony from personal experience how a praying wife had a restored marriage and her husband was saved.  His advice now is to pray, don't give up and he is praying with me and getting others to pray as well.