[me]

Hi RCR,

I really feel like giving up the fight to keep my family together. I still have a family he is just not in the picture. Do I go with my gut or believe  in MLC or a confused man.  He seems so happy with her but he was happy with me too so WTH?

I will not play second fiddle to another woman, and that is what he is doing. I have been thinking of asking him for a divorce, not to force him into anything but because I think it may give me total closure on this. I am giving myself until just after Christmas to decide, problem is I cannot afford one ..he can

[TrustingMyHP]

cj

Thanks for reposting this. I had not seen it first time around

It's a brilliant description of the "falling in love" aspect of the MLC affair.

I saw my H last week for the first time in 7 months.  I'll be posting about it on the SB where my thread is.  He is 3.5 years into his MLC affair, 22 months since BD and moving in with OW. 

It's a shipwreck.  An absolute shipwreck.  EVERYTHING this article says describes his sitch.  He's a broken man and told me he's "hit bottom" and "been to really scary places" emotionally.  I suspect he was referring to suicidal thoughts.

It's sad but also amazing how much of a "script" this experience of the MLC is.

TMHP