[Rollercoasterider]

Sharing physical books is acceptable.
But it is inappropriate and usually against the copyright to share electronic versions. If the author gives permission to pass copies along for free, that is fine, but that is not typically the case. People can go to the author's website or purchase her books from Amazon if they wish to read them--or check out a copy from the library.
Please do not offer to send copies of e-books to people, that is stealing money directly from the author.
http://www.amazon.com/Help-Your-Spouse-Heal-Affair/dp/145055332X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1366990291&sr=8-1&keywords=Linda+J.+MacDonald

[Battlefield]

I downloaded these  Yesterday and I found them to b helpful and thought I would share! Hope they will help all of you too
My H is home and OW is Long gone but I still found Who will You become Helpful because it isnt just about the midst of the affair.
It's about the children the spouse and Them. It was so helpful!
I cried!!!! Here is a link to her Website so you can check out the books for yourself, if you would like to purchase them
http://www.lindajmacdonald.com/Mini-Books.html

WHO WILL YOU BECOME?
A Reality check and hope for those who are tempted
or Fallen
By Linda J. MacDonald, M.S., LMFT

How to Help Your
Spouse Heal from
Your Affair:
A compact manual for the unfaithful
Linda J. MacDonald, M.S., LMFT

[Battlefield]

I didn't know and I modified the post!
I would never do that intentionally.  I just wanted to
Help anybody I could in the same situation I am in!
Thanks so much.

[kikki]

Thanks Smitty for sharing that link.

This is the most enormous concern for those of us with children - the out of character changes in the MLC parent - and the blindness to the destruction (as RCR describes it in the articles).

My H has even had moments of clarity where he has said to me he worries about what this is all doing to his children - But three years post BD he is still strongly addicted to his new life with the OW, although he looks a wreck and looks miserable most of the time.

I hope your H can see the impact on your children soon too.  A young woman with lots of partners is usually looking for attention because it's not coming from her Father. 
Even though your H is home - it is a sad confirmation that these crises just take so very long for them to work through.

[crazyjourney]

I sit here with tears in my eyes reading this as it is my worst fear that mlc will effect my sons in a negative way, they were 20 and 22 when this started although the first time that lasted only a few weeks was 5 years previously.

My h has brought shame to my door and that of his sons how will I ever forgive that, to be honest for myself I will survive but my sons are more precious than life itself, I hate hate hate mlc.

I wish my h would just realize what an idiot he is being.

Sorry rant over.

x

[Battlefield]

Crazy&kikki,
I know it's so hard when our children are affected the way they are.
When this all first happened I took both my kids to a counselor.
She told me that my 16 yr old(then 14) and 21 (then 18). She told me that
My 16 yr old needed to b in counseling by my 21yr old was fine and didn't need
Further counseling.
Well I didn't agree with her at all. I went with getting into the word and relying on The Lord
My 16yr old followed in that route. She is faithful to the word and loves The Lord!!
I tried everything with my 21yr old other counselor church nothing, she is angry hurt ECt. 
I have let her to The Lord. Prayer.
I know she will b fine as well as H.
It's just so sad it had to get to this point.
She had such a bright future.
She was going to teach she lived working with autistic children
She has a gift. She can never do that now.
It's heartbreaking.
H has made comments to his mom that he knows what has wouldnt of happened if it wasn't for him.
But he made her promise never to tell me.
He said I was right about everything. OW, him being in MLC.  BUT I CAN NEVER KNOW!
He under no way shape or form wants me to know that I was right about any of it!!

I wish I could give this to my H. But I'm not sure he would even b ready to receive it. And OW is gone. He is still so angry I think he would think I was being manipulative or accusing. Who knows. What they think.
I really wish I could knowing he would read it from start to finish and really read it and think.

It made me think. And just made me hurt.

[Ready2Transform]

{{{hugs}}} Smitty.  My heart breaks for your family.   When my parents divorced when I was 20 and I disconnected from my mother and her drama, my dad and I went to several counseling sessions.  The counselor was supportive and also felt I was stable enough to not encourage me to get more therapy.   Over the years, things came up for me and I reacted in different ways, but ultimately, I was able to follow a path to a normal life.  I say that to encourage you not to give up on your daughter!  She may be dealing with things in a less than desirable way right now and listening to no one's input to change, but just as God is working in your H's life, I believe with a praying mother she has an amazing chance to make a come back and be the person she is meant to be.  I will be praying for her, too, as I'm sure many others here will. 

[Battlefield]

Thank u so much Ready,
That is one thing I will never do is give up on any of them, it doesn't matter what they do they r our children and we will love them. I will Love her through this.  All I can do is show her love and kindness and Forgivness. It is so sad. What has happened.
I love her and will help get her through this.
Thank u for ur Prayers and kind and supportive words.

[Stillpraying]

You may be interested in this book:

http://www.boomerangbooks.com.au/Power-of-a-Praying-Parent/Stormie-Omartian/book_9780736922067.htm

[Wed2Him?Whatever.]

Hey just an FYI, after visiting Elle Zober's blog, I decided I would order her magnet.

She not only sent the magnet, but also included an autographed copy of her book!

Should make for an interesting read...