[readytofixmyselffirst]

It was so uplifting to read your stories.  Your own memories of your fathers and the actions of your children are truly remarkable during this time of crisis. I hope all of you can come to this thread for some laughs, some smiles, and more importantly the love that we all need during this time. Have a great day.

[ForeverHopefulOne]

My S10 brought tears of joy to me yesterday.  For those that don't know, my S is autistic and very much into music - he loves to sing.  When I picked him up at the bus yesterday, he was over joyed to see me - hugging me, telling me he loves me and that he missed me.  I wanted to treat him, so I took him to McDonalds (haven't taken him in a while as we really are low on funds and that is a luxury that I just can't afford very often); when we were driving home from McDonalds, he burst into song - the song he sang was Faithfully by Journey.  This was the song that my sister sang at my wedding.  He sang it from beginning to end, even included the drum solos, etc.  and would look lovingly at me while he was singing it.  When he was done, he reached over, told me he loved me and gave me a kiss.  It was so beautiful, it made me cry.  My S is the best kid!

xoxoxo

[readytofixmyselffirst]

Music to my ears, our children have to be our source of comfort and inspiration. I am finding that I can detach better as I focus my energy towards them and not my spouse-who does not want that attention from me anyway. By giving it to the kids, I can stand and help them all in the same shot. Your son sounds so incredible. God Bless you and your story. Brought a smile and some warmth to my heart. Thanks for sharing.

[Still]

FHO,

That was absolutely beautiful! Children have a way of making all the hurt simply melt away. Great, great memories!

[Mermaid]

What a great idea, especially sharing the ways that people are kind to us (we know we are all sacrificing a lot for others...)
My Ds also make small kind gestures to show that they love me, as well as hugs. But it's not only children, and friends, whose kindness keeps our world turning.
The other day I was surprised to receive a small parcel in the post from my parents (who live far away in another country).  It wasn't my birthday! It was a small box of chocolates, with a card and a message to show their love and support for me. I kept the card, and have it by my side.

[readytofixmyselffirst]

Yes, my friends have been a great source of support. However, they are like me in the sense they can't understand my W's inexplicable behavior. Yet, I get hugs, smiles, and a place to go and just sit at times. I am hoping that the friends can continue to do what I do for my wife and provide some support but detach from the nuttiness.

[Baxter]

I went into this weekend thinking great, a long weekend, and I don't have much planned.   I could not have been more wrong.   I spent last night with my amazing and supportive friends having smores around the fire.  Today , spending time with friends, and tomorrow, going over a friends lake house with a bunch of people.   I am really starting to realize than regardless of my current MLC situation, I have a life that is so very full and rich with love and friendship.                             

 I guess I just feel really blessed and I am starting to love myself again. 

[Mermaid]

Baxter, that's fantastic. I feel encouraged; may be one day I can post something like this.

This thread is such a good idea!

[Courageous wife]

I love reading this thread...yes, it was a wonderful idea and Mermaid, you WILL have something to post soon!!!

I have one!  Today is D12's birthday.  She spent last night with her Dad and came home a little and was a little quiet and short with everyone.  She really wanted an ipod touch but no way could I afford it (long story but a co-worker had one that I could buy at a huge discount and make payments to her so got D12 one).  She was disappointed that there was only one present to open.  When she opened it, she said "no way" and jumped up, knocking the chair over and ran around the table and gave me a huge,long ol' hug and I heard her sniffing and she was crying!  I have to say I have never gotten that kind of reaction from her before.  I am sure there is a lot of thoughts going on with her with our situation and tween-hormones etc. but I won't forget that hug!!!!

[Mermaid]

Loved that story, really made me smile!!!