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Discussion Helping children deal with grief: book recommendations
OP: November 15, 2011, 11:08:42 AM
OK, for those of us with children, I think that this could be helpful (and arguably more important than worrying about the emotional state of our MLCer who is beyond help at this point anyway).

If you know of books that have been helpful for dealing with grief (death, divorce etc) that are age appropriate (and do not minimise the impact of having a broken family) then I know I would appreciate hearing about them.
I would suggest a breakdown like this, but if you have a better idea go for it!

1) V. young children: pre schoolers
2) Primary school children, Under 7 and Over 7
3) Pre teen and young teenagers
4) Older teenagers and young adults

Single parenting is hard, but it is extra hard if we do not have any sort of compass for dealing with our children's emotions (especially when our own are still running high at times).

Thanks in advance!
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Re: Helping children deal with grief: book recommendations
#1: November 15, 2011, 12:08:25 PM



I hope you get some good recommendations! :) Great Topic! I feel so bad for all the children involved in any of this or who are hurt in any way at all.
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Re: Helping children deal with grief: book recommendations
#2: November 15, 2011, 12:16:47 PM
standanddeliver. this is going to be a good thread i think. i have not as yet found any books to read on this. i can deal with my pain and feelings a lot better now but if there is anything that i could do to help my kids more i would. a normal breakup is hard enough for our children but an mlc one seems more painful
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Re: Helping children deal with grief: book recommendations
#3: November 15, 2011, 12:22:01 PM
I saw this one and thought of ordering it so I am better equipped - I wonder if anyone has read it?

Also, if anyone knows of any good picture books that I can actually read WITH my kids, that would be great...
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Re: Helping children deal with grief: book recommendations
#4: November 15, 2011, 12:23:00 PM
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Re: Helping children deal with grief: book recommendations
#5: November 15, 2011, 12:45:59 PM
lol. was just about to ask which book. how much is it 
how old are your kds standand deliver  ;D
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Re: Helping children deal with grief: book recommendations
#6: November 15, 2011, 01:06:35 PM
I have a toddler and a 6 year old. The toddler is fairly unscathed by it all, but the 6 year old has had a very hard year. He is the best kid though. I love my kids so much. I feel blessed because I really realise how lucky I am to share their lives and H seems to have NO IDEA how much he is missing out on just cos he didn't want to work with me in the marriage, refuses to address his internal problems and instead wanted to shag some ho and buy designer clothes with her (actually I have more respect for ow's - at least they are honest about what they are doing, screwing people for money) that he had barely known for three months when he dropped the bomb - soulmate schmoopies lol.

One day he will wake up, I think, by then his kids childhoods will have passed him by, he will have missed most of it through choice, and he will have to live with that regret if he regrets nothing else. I would rather be on my own and miss as little of my children's growing years, than get some narcissistic pleasure from a man I barely know and abandon my family for that purpose. But then, I am not in crisis. 
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Re: Helping children deal with grief: book recommendations
#7: November 15, 2011, 01:37:23 PM



This thread reminded me that I've this book for about ten years: When Children Grieve: For Adults to Help Children Deal with Death, Divorce, Pet Loss, Moving and Other Losses by Russell Friedman and Dr. Leslie Matthews. I've never read it though because I have no children but I held onto it anyway. I can't find it right now; It's packed away but the reviews for it seem good. :)
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Re: Helping children deal with grief: book recommendations
#8: November 16, 2011, 04:30:39 AM
Thanks StarGazer - that is the book I linked to that I was thinking of getting!
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Re: Helping children deal with grief: book recommendations
#9: November 16, 2011, 07:37:02 AM
Quote from: StandandDeliver on November 16, 2011, 04:30:39 AM
Thanks StarGazer - that is the book I linked to that I was thinking of getting!


Is it? lol. Oh, I'm sorry... I didn't even read or click on the link. Well, that is ironic.   
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We never married ~ no children ~ two cats ~ Bomb Drop ~ 6/22/09 ~ he left to be w/ the Op & Op's kid
Atomic Bomb Drop ~ 3/22/12 ~ found out they had a child in early February, 2012 ( 2 weeks before my BDay )

In 100 years, none of this will matter but time is still. (( hugs & prayers to all ))
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