[calamity]

Terrence Real's book is available on ebook. 

[Sunny]

is it? I couldn't find it here in the UK. Well that's good news!

[R]

Never thought of looking for an ebook!

[Snowdrop]

So my next project will be doing some more research there about my family.
My son has been working on genealogy and I may have caught the bug. 

OP - I put a two line request for information a couple of years ago on a geneology site, and wasn't sure of correct name spelling, etc., and within 2 days or so, got a reply.  Hey, Snowdrop, I think I might be your first cousin!!  Well, this lovely lady, not only was able to tell me about our family's immediate history, but had in fact spent much time doing as you are, and managed to go back to either 17th or 18th Century.  How fab!

I would love to have access to what she wrote, but when H left, he decided to leave the computer in pieces, so I can't get to the info.  One day, and I can't wait

Lots of luck.  I think Ancestry.com seems to be a good place, and from what I've seen on their ads, it can do a lot of the work for you, linking people to places, etc.

[Sunny]

Snowdrop, what an amazing story about your first cousin!!

OP, that's awesome you can access Ancestry.com at the library! wonder if the same at ours? That would be awesome as at one time I was working on my geneology but had to stoo as couldn't afford the ancestry membership. I got quite far back on my grandfather's side, all the way back to the UK. I also did work on H's family, of which little is known past grandparents. I was able to get back a few more generations, not as many as mine, but did locate a second cousin. I told H but he wasn't even interested! That was the year before he left, maybe something do with MLC. I have kept in semi-contact with the cousin.

[SSG]

Heros Spouse 7/12/2010

2ND - The Masculine Dilemma :" Not Too close Not Too Far Away"
This axiom is for boys with their mother and men with their wives.
Many on this board will relate to this with their WH who run to the OW but keep their wives .....
"Not too close not too far away"
This also has to do with dependence,independence, and counterdependence.

Basically the other main point of the book is that men tend to hide their depression. (look at the title)
Most men are so invovled with masculine tendencies that they overlook their feelings
and don't realize they are in pain.

Old Pilot...is this a good book to read or one of those books that has a few good pointers and info

SSG

[OldPilot]

Yes this is a good book on masked depression from what I remember.

RCR likes Terrence Real's book and I have read both of them.
If you have the time read them both.

Heros Spouse 7/12/2010

Just finished reading "The Pain Behind the Mask" "Overcoming Masculine Depression"
There are two things that I want to write down from this book although it gives some great advice and stories.
First on Page 6  "Depression is a collection of symptoms that results from some kind of unresolved conflict"

2ND - The Masculine Dilemma :" Not Too close Not Too Far Away"
This axiom is for boys with their mother and men with their wives.
Many on this board will relate to this with their WH who run to the OW but keep their wives .....
"Not too close not too far away"
This also has to do with dependence,independence, and counterdependence.

Basically the other main point of the book is that men tend to hide their depression. (look at the title)
Most men are so invovled with masculine tendencies that they overlook their feelings
and don't realize they are in pain.

Old Pilot...is this a good book to read or one of those books that has a few good pointers and info

SSG

[SSG]

Will get both ...but as you said in your review, the second one sounds like my husband spot on (as so many WH here).
Thanks
SSG

[Arborealis]

I came across this book about empathy. I have also been reading about pronoia (the opposite of paranoia). Hoping to get a hold of it and get something out of it. If anyone has read it or ends up reading it, I'd love to know your thoughts:

The Empathy Exams: Essays
http://www.amazon.com/Empathy-Exams-Essays-Leslie-Jamison-ebook/dp/B00FCQW7NK/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1400581733&sr=1-1&keywords=The+Empathy+Exams

This is another one that I am REALLY interested in:
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
http://www.amazon.com/The-Gifts-Imperfection-Supposed-Embrace/dp/159285849X

[OldPilot]

I came across this book about empathy. I have also been reading about pronoia (the opposite of paranoia). Hoping to get a hold of it and get something out of it. If anyone has read it or ends up reading it, I'd love to know your thoughts:

The Empathy Exams: Essays
http://www.amazon.com/Empathy-Exams-Essays-Leslie-Jamison-ebook/dp/B00FCQW7NK/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1400581733&sr=1-1&keywords=The+Empathy+Exams

This is another one that I am REALLY interested in:
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
http://www.amazon.com/The-Gifts-Imperfection-Supposed-Embrace/dp/159285849X

I have put this post with the other book threads that we have here on the forum.

There is a link to the previous thread on the first post here.