[BraveNewWorld]

I need space [ loosely translated as 'leave me alone, I want to go and daydream about the other man' ]

I don't think I want to grow old with you

I don't love you

I don't want to be your wife

I want to find myself [ I sometimes want to tell her to look herself up on Google Maps ]

Oh yeah!? [ default response to anything I say or ask ]

Laters dudes [ did any generation ever say that!? ]

I'mmmmmmmmmoutahere!

[ And that damned Black Eyed Peas song 'I got a feeling' - sings that a lot ... I could kick will.i.am ]

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Feel a bit guilty writing this list, but also nice to say how I feel.

holdingon

[covenantkeeper]

I've been feeling this way for a couple of years.

Ok, for about 10 years.

No, it's been about the better part of 20 years.

I have not loved you for the entire time we've been married.

I don't even know why I married you.

I can't stand the sound of your voice or want to even see you.

You have never understood me.

You have never bothered to find out who I really am. What my dreams are.

You really don't understand the depth of the damage you have done to me.

I don't trust you.

I don't believe you when you say you love me.

I'm tired of being your "meal ticket".

I'm tired of working and providing for everyone. Tired of being taken for granted.

You are too high maintenance for me.

You are way too demanding and controlling.

We have nothing in common.

I figured out that we want different things out of life. (it took him 33 yrs. to figure this out?!)

Maybe we could try to work things out.

I'm so confused and tired of the rollercoaster I'm on. Too many emotions.

I can't tell you I love you yet.

I do care about you.

I've been thinking of dropping the divorce and us moving back in together.

Then 2 days later: I haven't decided what I'm going to do.....still contemplating.

You should look for someone else. I'm worthless. I've failed you.

You need someone with a lot of money.

The OW isn't making demands on me like you are.

The OW is making demands on me now and I don't like it.

Now I think I can't trust all women.

[Sideways]

ILYBINILWY

You made fun of me picking my finger..

This goes back 1 year, 2 years, quite a while

You accused me of an affair

We are" just friends"

I don't have any feelings

I don't have any feelings for you in the marriage

I can't hug you...I told you I don't have any feelings

It's not you, it's me

I consoled you when you couldn't breathe when I dropped bomb-  ( I had a  bad panic attack and quit breathing)

What if I don't want to work at it?

What if I don't want to come back

People tell me how good I look- so I must be doing something right...(repeatedly for 2 years)


I hope we can be civil and act like adults  ...(W-T-F?)

"K"

lie after lie about people, places, events

[In this for ME]

The lying is the one that's killing me and the girls.
We don't believe a word he says anymore and even if he got rid of ow begged and pleaded and asked for forgiveness ( which we are sure he will never do) We wouldn't believe him.

[SpecialK]

ILYBINILWY
I don't want a relationship with you
I care about you
I like you
You haven't changed
We've nothing in common
This is going no-where

[Butterfly]

Lying when it would be easier to tell the truth. No reason to lie.

ILYBNILWY

We can all be friends.

If I hadn't done this I would be dead. ( would have killed himself)

This wasn't about OW. It was about me.

Not happy last 5,7,20 years.

I'm trying not to hurt you.

You never loved me.

Kids get over divorces all the time.

You don't make me happy.

[SpecialK]

I want what everyone wants - ever lasting love!

[What Next]

Butterfly

I think my H stole your H's script!  Especially the bit about being dead (for him it was by year end) if he didn't go,  That was a real silencer, how do you argue with that?

Actually reading all the scripts has put a smile on my face.  Really, how old are these people?

[Glimmer]

The ones I remember the most are:-

I love you but not as much as I should do.
I've been bored for 4 years.
I never had a youth.
I want to put me first for a change.
I'm not particularly unhappy, just not 'happy'.
We have drifted apart and don't have anything in common.
We have never had a conversation.
I will never shirk my responsibilities.
You always pushed me away.
I want to live my life without being questioned.
The kids will be OK. they will adapt like every other kid that goes through this.
I'm sorry, I guess it was just never meant to be.

I could go on and on, but I will just be repeating what every other person has posted here. After all they all refer to the MLC manual don't they.

[Chloe1977]

WOW 

My H is a young MLCer but he is in a MLC. Here's the script that I've gotten since that fateful day.

I love you but I don't think I'm in love with you anymore. 
I don't want to be married anymore.
I never got to live my 20's.
I haven't been happy for some time. Couldn't you notice?
You've been living in a fantasy that I created.
I've lied to you for 15 years.
I feel like I'm killing my best friend.
I'm sorry, I tried to push these feelings away but you just kept pestering me.
I wanna die.
If I stay here any longer then I'll wind up killing myself.
The boys will understand.
I'll always be here for you I just can't be with you.

And then 2 months later....
I can't believe I felt bad for hurting you when you've hurt me.
You took advantage of me.
You used me.
You never appreciated me. 
You put me on a shelf and only spent time with me when it suited you.
You didn't want to spend time with me.
I never loved you. 
I stayed with you because I owed it to you.
We married too young.
God said that I'm on the right path. 
I'm just down the road.

3 months later...
I've moved on, why can't you?
You shouldn't feel betrayed by her. I'm the one who left you.

Since then I've heard how he wants to put our family back together but nothing has changed with him. How he misses the boys. And now he's home and he doesn't talk about any of it at all. He's told others he still and always will love me. He's said how he wishes he had listened to me about his depression before and maybe none of this would have happened. And he's promised the boys that he'll never leave again.