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Interacting with Your MLCer Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#70: November 22, 2010, 08:52:53 AM
I get "I understand" all the time....I Hate it too.
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#71: November 22, 2010, 11:03:30 AM
"It is what it is"
I HATE that phrase... thank god he hasn't used that one yet.
He once said to me about ow
"She doesn't know everything"
So I guess he's lying to her also.. but Lord knows I didn't add "well either do I and either do you"
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#72: November 22, 2010, 11:28:02 AM
My H just use the "it is what it is" when writing an email to our kids about Thanksgiving.

I truly dislike that phrase, as well.  It is what it is - 'cause he is choosing to make it so.
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#73: November 25, 2010, 01:27:56 AM
Before H left, and I was suggesting things to try to improve our relationship all he could keep saying was:


'It'll just go back to the same'



How many times did I hear that  >:(
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#74: November 25, 2010, 05:36:00 AM
Yup, I got that one too, UGH !!
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#75: November 26, 2010, 04:15:10 AM
Just remembered something else H said when he left.

I will always be grateful to you for everything you have done for me, but it's not enough and I can't live my life being grateful.

I guess it was just never meant to be.

Part of me misses my life with you, and part thinks it's for the best.
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#76: November 26, 2010, 04:20:48 AM
Mine frequently says 'she doesn't know eveything' or 'she doesn't need to know where I am all the time'.
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#77: November 26, 2010, 04:27:43 AM
Don't they know that every excuse hurts us and questions us in everything we have done in the past or even now ?  I know, I know they are so stupid now that it doesn't matter that much to them.
M H has said " I was rejected so much that I shut down all my emotions to you and that is why you didn't notice I was unhappy"
Rejected, really ?  Hey bud the feeling was mutual !!
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#78: November 26, 2010, 05:00:49 AM
I just got that one yesterday!  He was rejected! 

Said it has been ongoing for years but started 10yrs ago.  I asked him why he never told me how he felt especially around the time I 'rejected him and all he had to offer' (reference to his wanting to live in Australia and my 'rejection' of that).  He told me I should have noticed how unhappy he was!  Well he put on a damn good act up until 5mths ago!
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Re: The Script our MLCer reads from
#79: November 26, 2010, 05:10:00 AM
My H had been trying to tell me for 12 years he was unhappy and I wouldn't listen um.

My H said he felt rejected because I changed in 1984 after being out of the country for 3 months! We didn't marry until 1987  :o
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