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MLC Monster 150 calls, 250 texts and 2500 minutes a month!
OP: January 27, 2012, 05:41:38 PM
Hi Everyone. Wondering if anyone has had the experience of their MLCer having a grossly extreme amount of phone contact with the OW/OM. Mine had about 150 calls, 250 texts and 2500 minutes per month with OW on the phone. Has denied EA and PA. Also met with her a few times, taking her to see his mom and other family members without my knowledge. Was def a EA and can't imagine that it wasn't also a PA. Its not like she lives out of state. Conversing this much, do you think this is being "in love" or more like an addiction? I know people talk with their OM/OW, but this amount is abnormal, don't you think?
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Re: 150 calls, 250 texts and 2500 minutes a month!
#1: January 27, 2012, 05:46:01 PM
Sounds like infatuation.

250 texts is fewer than 10 a day--that's not a lot. I have teen-aged boys, and 10 texts a day is nothing.  2500 minutes is a couple hours total per day....they're probably saying schmoopie things to each other.

I guess infatuation at this stage is like an addiction--it gives these guys a chemical high--on neurotransmitters.
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Re: 150 calls, 250 texts and 2500 minutes a month!
#2: January 27, 2012, 08:15:27 PM
Willitgetbetter..

Please read the article section of this forum. Also, read some other threads and you will see that MLCers LOVE TO TEXT AND TALK ON THE PHONE!!! Prior to BD, we didn't even know what texting was!! Texting is a form of shallow communication... it is a BARRIER to intimacy... but very effective for communicating INFO to someone else.... TEENAGERS love to text constantly about nothing... the same way teenage girls in my day would be on the phone for HOURS!!!

All of a sudden, MLCers LOVE to talk on the phone.... in my husband's case.... he NEVER likes to be on the phone!! BUT, with OW, he LOVED being in constant contact.... his original ATT plan was for a few hundred texts plus several hours of talk time per month... way more than was needed... BUT, he changed his plan at BD to include 1200 minutes and unlimited texting.... :o :o :o :o I can't even IMAGINE being on the phone with my best friend for that amount of time!! REALLY!!! OW is the one who initiates all of the contact... she is immature and insecure... but all of the texting and such keeps the MLCer VERY busy and occupied and distracted from themselves... so they embrace it.
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Re: 150 calls, 250 texts and 2500 minutes a month!
#3: January 27, 2012, 08:22:20 PM
I didn't know this was a described behavior of MLC, but, true to script, I guess, H did text his OW a LOT. I think he also IM'ed her via Facebook, and talked to her on the phone, probably Skyped her from his work computer or maybe his home computer.

(Pardon me while I retch...)

I found his secret texting phone in his truck just before he moved out and took it and read all the texts--at least the ones he sent HER. I just shook like a leaf reading those. I was SO raw with hurt!

Interesting...
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Re: 150 calls, 250 texts and 2500 minutes a month!
#4: January 27, 2012, 08:32:15 PM
Only 250?  Wow he's tame. Dearheart is down to 250 a month after two years and he doesn't answer all her texts so..
Yep it's normal
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Re: 150 calls, 250 texts and 2500 minutes a month!
#5: January 28, 2012, 03:08:00 AM
They are so obsessed with their phones they hide in cupboards and toilets to enable their addiction to continue. Some very bizarre behaviour with a phone just before and after BD  ::)

Also they never leave it unattended as they are very attached to them  :-\

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Re: 150 calls, 250 texts and 2500 minutes a month!
#6: January 28, 2012, 03:24:26 AM
Yep, my H used his phone like a third arm.....after BD - he NEVER left his phone unguarded and that is not too strong a word.... unguarded.....he had to protect his phone almost like it was an extension of OW if that makes sense... I foolishly took his phone off him one day and he literally fought with me to get it back......so much so he pushed me hard against the bathroom wall to "take his phone back"  hurting me physically mattered nothing to him, he HAD to get his phone off me.....very sad.....  :(


The only time he ever switched his phone off and left it unattended for me to listen to OW's sinister phone messages and read OW and her daughter's texts!!! was during his "touch and go" last Easter.... why? don't know?  but it wasn't long before Monster rose again and he changed his PIN number to access his phone....so back into guarding mode.... He refused time after time after time to show me who was texting him...even though he was supposed to have ended with OW and "making a go with me"....the addiction of the phone was too strong... H was actually having an "affair" with his phone....it was all part of the exciting and intense behaviour of deceiving me..unfortunately our modern age makes it so very easy.

So nothing I read about texts, phones etc surprises me.....H must be missing the drama of the "phone"!!! that's all I can say - as he doesn't have to protect it any more.....or does he? who knows..... I yearn sometimes for the happy days we both left our phones lying around and he would quite happily read his texts out....without me even caring who it was......

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Re: 150 calls, 250 texts and 2500 minutes a month!
#7: January 28, 2012, 06:14:29 AM
Foxberry... I like your description of the phone obsession so well, I think you could write a script and sell it to Hollywood..... "The PHONE!!"  ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

I hope my husband doesn't ever get a secret phone.... the non-secret one is bad enough, though the texting between him and OW doesn't happen in front of me (God spared me that one cuz he knew one of us would be going to jail, LOL!!). But.... his phone hasn't been left out in plain sight for two years!! He leaves it locked in his truck at night. If I really wanted to see it, I would just wait 'til he's really asleep, take his keys and go get it. Who wants to see that garbage? Well, I DO, I admit... but only when it's OTHER people's husband/OW text messages. YUCK!

I suspect the texting is way down, though...... he has told me he "never" answers OW's texts..... interpreted, that means answers when he feels like it.  ;)
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Re: 150 calls, 250 texts and 2500 minutes a month!
#8: January 28, 2012, 07:13:25 AM
LG, what an absolutely fab idea!!!!!  You can see the interview now can't you.. So tell me Foxberry what made you write a script about a man who has an obsession with "The Phone"....

Well you see, it all started a long long time ago in a more peaceful, kinder time when phones were inanimate objects and before they actually became part of the human body!!!!! and became a means to destroying your marriage...you think I'm joking?  Well listen to a story all about a man in MLC........
 
Lots of laughs  ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D

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H - still a Vanisher - Maybe he will realise one day what he's lost...but after years of heart-searching finally it doesn't matter any more! I never thought when I was devastated in 2010 after 28 years of marriage - I could be happy again...but it's true - I'm done spinning my wheels - I learned to walk on the sunny side of the street and leave the shadows behind me. Brand new life for me & it feels good to be free of all the drama. No such thing as MLC - just men/women who run away & are too cowardly to talk about their issues, just cheat with other cheaters! Don't waste your gift of life on these pathetic spouses - live life & enjoy...don't waste your life wondering why...you will never know...Trust is precious don't waste it on people who don't know know what it means...
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Re: 150 calls, 250 texts and 2500 minutes a month!
#9: January 28, 2012, 07:39:49 AM
  Well you made me dig up my files and my wife was close to 250 for a 8 hour work shift with the same person, She is a dispatcher for a company that is rather busy all day long. This happens to be her ex h and she has said it was all innocent just catching up. of course there is a lot more than this, this was my discovery day of all was not right.

  I will say that I text but only out of need and to reply but I would not feel right if I was texting to the opposite sex and the same person 250 in one month, If I were I would say that something is definitely  going on. Hfb
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