[UnbrokenLioness]

That is true about the op.  They didn't know our h/w before the alien invaded their body.  Heck.  H and I had relations Wednesday night. He told me he still loves me and misses me. He doesn't want OW to know so that tells me alien is still alive. That's how I can keep from dwelling on it and being upset. But if I am being honest, I didn't feel like I was making love with or cuddling with my h either. And he was the one who initiated the cuddling. I was actually expecting him to get up and get dressed and go back home... Lol

[Not Applicable]

Of course, they are playing the Wizard with the OP too, who is usually a Cowardly Lion afraid to lose them and they don't want us to pull a Toto and give the OP any idea about the truth because then the Cowardly Lion will want what we have and they don't want to give it to them.

[Watcher]

That is a better analysis Goner. I agree its because we know them and they cannot pull the wool over our eyes. Good point.

[waiting4]

I love this analogy.. it rings so true ....thanks for sharing..

[Anjae]

The moral of the story is we all need to be like Toto and expose them for their true selves that we know and love.

It doesn't work. They don't listen and are too deep inside the turmoil/fog.

I think it is because we know them.

[Not Applicable]

What I meant by exposing them is not to be cowed by the Wizard's fearful persona and react as if that is the real them. Behind the Wizard persona is someone who probably is actually afraid themselves and we have to view them in that way.

[Anjae]

Trust me, anyone that has been physically hurt by their MLC, like myself, Savoir Faire, In It, LP and others don't have much of a desire of seeing the MLCers as being someone who is probably maybe also affraid.

While in crisis, the real person is the crisis person. The person that used to me is no more, and may that person may never return.

[Mortesbride]

So we all know mega evil monster. When we get screamed at because their was a piece of lego behind the couch or whatever...

But do you guys have a lot of info for the other monster. The Mr. Nice Guy one. Who comes in acting sweet and pleasant like there is nothing wrong. Baring chocolates and calling you sweet heart.

I haven't found to much info on this other than a brief mention in one of the articles from HB.

At the beginning mine flipped between Mr Nice Guy and Evil Monster.... now I get Wallower or Mr Nice Guy for the most part. But I am not really sure what to do with/make of Mr Nice guy. I do know if I mentioned the wrong word...or talk about anything of actual importance Mr Evil will come out.

Hints, tips, tricks, links all appreciated.

[Thunder]

Sorry, can't help ya hon.

I would say he goes back and forth being a Monster.  There pretend Mr. Nice Guy, then there's Monster guy.

[UnconditionalLove]

Yeah this may be where my ex is now.  I wouldn't say it's Charming Monster but more like possible pretending to be Mr. Nice or trying to be Mr. Nice.  I think mine is working himself out of anger and Monster.  Not that it wouldn't show up again but he's cycle out of replay and possible in and out of fog.  He's show a bit more emotions that he's shown in two years so something is changing but he's still not to be trusted and he's still not at bottom yet I don't believe.  Just a nicer version that I'm getting.  He's out of energy with replay for now.