[Ready2Transform]

FTT..... the "I'm homeless" meme is typical..... they FEEL homeless.. uprooted.... NOT AT HOME!!! It's still BIZARRE when you hear it!

Tough Times.... your husband essentially gave you a BLUEPRINT to what he is trying to accomplish.... completely REBUILD HIMSELF and his life in his MLC!!! Thanks for sharing, still sucks for us!!!

Yep, got the "I have no home!!" thing here too (my response was pre-knowledge about MLC, so my prodding that Bank of America thought differently and they wanted their money wasn't met too keenly.    )

[Quiet Strength]

I'm so glad my H isn't the only one who plays the victim. Mine CHOSE to move into a hotel and then blames me that he lives in a hotel. Really?! He also said he had no choice but to move in with OW because he couldn't afford the hotel anymore. I replied, 'Did you hit your head?' 

This entire situation is soooo bizarre! I keep expecting Ashton Kutcher to show up and tell me I've been Punk'd.

[Ready2Transform]

I'm so glad my H isn't the only one who plays the victim. Mine CHOSE to move into a hotel and then blames me that he lives in a hotel. Really?! He also said he had no choice but to move in with OW because he couldn't afford the hotel anymore. I replied, 'Did you hit your head?' 

This entire situation is soooo bizarre! I keep expecting Ashton Kutcher to show up and tell me I've been Punk'd.

    I wish that part went away, but it never makes more sense.  Salvador Dali couldn't paint something this surreal. 

This made me remember though a conversation from last spring where H was talking about the realities of having to support himself in the future (he'd moved into his parents' basement August 2011).  He wanted to assure me that it was a "bitter pill", as though that would make me feel better about having all of our joint finances thrown in my lap.      And no, he has NEVER moved out of the basement and continues to live off of his parents!!  Party on Wayne!!

[toughtimes]

FTT..... the "I'm homeless" meme is typical..... they FEEL homeless.. uprooted.... NOT AT HOME!!! It's still BIZARRE when you hear it!

Tough Times.... your husband essentially gave you a BLUEPRINT to what he is trying to accomplish.... completely REBUILD HIMSELF and his life in his MLC!!! Thanks for sharing, still sucks for us!!!

Yes he said to me at the beginning he was f@@@ed up when he met me and thought he was rebuilding himself but he realises he built himself wrong because of our f@@@ed up R. Now he needs to rebuild himself but not within the prism of our f@@@ed up R!
Oh, he also told me he thought he was over his agorophobia when he met me but he realises he hid in our f@@@ed up R for 14 years like an agorophobic hides indoors!
How many times does this guy have to tell me our R was f@@@ed up? Okay, okay I get the message!!!!!!

[crazyjourney]

Mine told sons that he had stayed in a bedsit when he first left.

Well no it was an ApartmentHotel where a football manager used to also stay, so hardly a bedsit pretty upmarket to be fair, I also know he changed apartments 3 times in the first week because he didnt feel comfortable.

As he had wanted space he first got a really large one but it turned out to be too big, next one was next to fire doors so he felt vunerable, after 3rd one he moved to a rented flat which surprise surprise he didnt like either after 3 month so moved again.

2nd flat stayed for a year on and off as by that time medicating with ow, now has another rental flat which he said is cheaper and also a rental with ow 3 hours away which he is back and forth to on a weekly basis, lots of travel which we know they like lol.

Sorry not really things he has said but what he has done but still crazy! I couldnt believe he said he had stayed in a bedsit, definately a pity me, he drives a 7 series bmw hardly likely to stay in a bedsit is he!!

[being a lighthouse]

mine's reaction to me saying I felt that if he wanted to leave the relationship he should leave the family home (and not live in his son's room for free because he was earning nothing and contributing nothing to the household which is what he was proposing )
he then told the children I wanted to see him homeless.
it's a script. it's a script.

[calamity]

I gotta get a life!  But I need to share this:

My h said, 'I'm not comfortable signing the mortgage' [renewal].  We owe less than a fifth of the value of the property.  I think he thought this would be pressure on me to sign an agreement.  Did he think I was holding the mortgage?  Well I am sure the bank will be sympathetic. 

He used to be an intelligent man. 

[toughtimes]

I forgot about this thread!

Well staying on the homeless one. My H recently told me he was homeless, staying at people's houses, it's hideous apparently. When I said I know you're living with ow and paying her rent, he looked shocked!

Following day he told me he had to live somewhere, he can't afford his own place and would rather live here but can't afford to so he has to live somewhere! Hmmmmmm what an evil woman am I .... He chose to leave and chose I move in with ow but I'm stopping him from living near his kids and forcing him to live with his affair partner!

He also said it was important to him that he buys and cooks the children's food when he comes to look after them! Ha, he buys a bag of chicken nuggets and his ow soup and thinks that's cooking for his kids! He doesn't see the irony of him placing importance on cooking for his kids and yet abandoning them! Whaaaaaat???

[Stillpraying]

My H just keeps contradicting himself.

Last time (last week) he said he thought I was selling my shares to pay him out.  I replied that it wasn't his business how I paid him out.  So he replies, "Why do you think I'm interested in your business!"
Other times he will tell me all about his financial woes or affair details and when I reply that I don't want to know about it, he responds again by telling me it's none of my business!???

So last week again he bled his heart via sms and said how bad off financially he was and how good I had it because I have the house, the government assistance etc..........  He thinks I personally get it all (no matter the kids) .  He got 35% of ALL assets in the marriage.  He is so jealous and selfish.  I learnt not to respond so I didn't but just rolled my eyes (AGAIN)

[Slow Fade]

My H said shortly after bd that one of the reasons he was leaving was because the dog was too fat.......