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Author Topic: MLC Monster LifeTwo - Help! My wife is having a mid-life crisis - Advice please 2

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W just called and we are taking the kids to our favorite restaurant and to the circus on Saturday. I can't believe I just typed that to be honest as it seems like a normal weekend. No expectations will there be. In a normal situation this would be great news. In this mess, it could be disastrous. W also will be with the kids at the house waiting for me to get home tonight which is different also. I really have to laugh!!!
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One day at a time.

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STNG...I believe 'we'll always have Paris' is from Star Trek Next Generation

he he he...not sure about that one that I was thinking of....was more along the lines of "CASABLANCA"...talk about your MLC story...sheesh
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S15 & S11 [from MLCer1]
BD#1: 9/2017
BD#2: 11/2017
D in the works.  I AM DONE!!!
Separated: 12/2017
OM: EAs up to at least 6 now, 2 PAs-confirmed

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Moc, my friend, we both benefit from our interaction, believe me it is not all one one way. I truly appreciate your faith, your dedication to your family, your willingness to make changes in yourself as needed. A lot of good qualities, in the end as long as we do things HIS way, He will give us the peace we need (Phillipians 4:5-7).

Tigger would be right; it's NEVER "one sided" benefits that result, as God puts people together for a reason; to encourage each other, help each other, and yes, to teach each other.

As much time as I've put into the forum in the past two years, as a mentor,  I've learned a great deal from the interactions I've had with others going through their various journeys.

You learn so many aspects through this trial and many others, most of all, you learn to allow Him to guide your steps in all ways, and He will, indeed, make your crooked paths straight. :)

I've seen the Lord work in mysterious ways over time, and I've seen Him work miracles to show His Glory clearly for others to also see.

His time and ours is NOT the same, but since He knows the future, and because He also has the whole picture, and we don't; it would behoove us to completely trust Him for what's ahead. :)

Following Him exclusively could be seen as the hardest aspect of all, but I can tell you from experience, it is the MOST rewarding if you're willing to simply follow His direction, and obey Him to the letter. :)

He knows people better than they know themselves, and He can and will direct one to do various things to help turn a situation around in a positive fashion.  You may not see results right then, but that's also why it's called having complete faith in Him who knows all things that will come in the future.

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God will always go with you and it will be a safe journey, as long as you continue to allow Him to walk with you. :)

Take care. :)
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some interesting articles...  http://www.stolenvows.com/index.html
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Ok what has happened to the LT guys? Hfb
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site came back up and they seem to be posting there, 75 in the last 2 days, myself I cant keep up with 2 sites too much like work, I barely have time for one.
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we're still around
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I am lurking over THERE, reading checkin you all out. Hfb
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I live.  I would love to see all the guys from there continue to post here.  Every site needs a Rover (but you gotta bring over the Alf pic!).

As for me, I'm stressed about Saturday.  I'm not hopeful, but this is......strange.  Probably just a cycle toward us but thats what stresses me.  Is there really no hope that this could be anything more?
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Thundarr ... Saturday does not matter. Take it in stride.  It is a series of Saturdays over a long period of time is when you can tell the difference, from what I'm told. Even if it is a disaster (which I doubt), some good will come from it.

I've got my own possible family sitch on Saturday night with my nephew's wrestling tournament. Will she go? Will she not? Don't know.  Hope so. If not, I'm going anyway.  Got it? 

We are getting together tomorrow to go over her investment portfolio. Will it happen? Don't know. I hope so. But won't be surprised if it doesn't.  I have great hopes. Just very little expectation anymore.  Ironic, no?  Maybe I am lying to myself, but it helps. Fake that part until you make it T. 

Peace hombre.

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"Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for." - Bob Marley

 

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