[Buggy31]

Mine too Mermaid!  Our husband's sound alot alike.

[Wed2Him?Whatever.]

Mine has openly started chewing tobacco again and drinking again but thinks it's hidden from me, and maybe smoking marijuana again.  Anything that he used to do back in his carefree bachelor days of youth.  My H's "other woman" is no woman, but a bad lifestyle.

[kikki]

Many people have asked me if my H is on 'P' (Methamphetamine) because of the way he looks and acts at times.
I'm pretty certain he isn't.  He has always hated chemicals.  He is smoking marijuana again though (back to his youth).

I think it's the effects of the depression/crisis itself that makes them look so dreadful ........

[angelgirl]

I agree that the OW affair is like a drug. My H was obsessed with it and afraid to let it go. Everyone asked if he was on drugs. His personality was so different. He had no drug addiction before that, and in fact, he SHOULD have been taking an antidepressant for seasonal depression, but didn't. He used OW instead. Also, he was taking some blood-pressure med that can increase depression as well.

angelgirl

[limitless]

My H had a bad drug habit in the mid 80's (cocaine).  Got sober (drugs and alcohol) in '86.
I'm surprised that he isn't back to doing this.  Since I don't see him...it is possible...who knows?

I think when someone has an addictive personality - drugs, alchohol, spending, gambling, other woman - it is merely substituting one drug for another.

L

[dragonfly]

Does a workaholic count? Smoking like a chimney? My H. always was a serious worker, but never smoked cigarettes.
Ah well, it probably works in the short run to avoid feeling numb and alienated.

[NewBeginnings]

My H went through phases where he would drink when he got home.  He would have one or two drinks in a tall glass but made them very strong.   I don't know how much he is drinking now.  I don't think it's every night but who knows.  One thing I do know is I feel like I want to start drinking, LOL. 

[Mamma Bear]

  Only your pharmacist knows for sure....LOL    Oh yeah vicodin, possibly methadone (trying to stop vicodin)  vodka and gatorade according to the Ds  (the trailer park trash drink of champions)
They also said he drinks yellow wine and red wine.
     L, In the 80s he did cocaine,heroine snorted it, anything not nailed down. But this implosion is Mamma Bear's fault. OK?  I get it!
                                                                             
                                                                 

[kikki]

Does a workaholic count? Smoking like a chimney? My H. always was a serious worker, but never smoked cigarettes.

Yip, it sure does.

All part of the covert depression - covering up with addictions so they don't look inwards and FEEL their hurt or pain........
Work (the most socially acceptable addiction there is), substances, people, shopping and sports can all be addictions

[NewBeginnings]

Well my H is a workholic too.  Always has been always will be.  He works more now than he ever has.  He's hardly spending anytime with OW.