[stayed]

Thanks for the chuckle.  I thought it was funny.  I forwarded it to my husband who did not find it funny in the least.  His only comment was, "wow, sounds familiar eh?"

hugs Stayed

[Trustandlove]

This is the best one I've seen; over the years I've seen a number of versions of this.....  it's the kind of thing I'd be tempted to leave "accidentally" lying around.....   don't worry

[calamity]

Don't bother.  I showed it to my h early on.  He didn't get it. [as in, how does that apply to me?]

[trusting]

I still can't get over how uncanny it is how closely they follow script! 

[calamity]

If they all follow the script, does that mean they really are in mlc?  If so many say and do the same things that is a validation of what we understand of mlc?

[ziggee]

Wow... I have heard that woman in MLC are very differnt from men... I dont see it.. that seems to be the play book my wife has been following to the letter.. its absolutely uncanny!!!


Z.

[since_youve_been_gone]

Hi I would like to hear your views if possible please.  I'm not sure I have placed this in the correct place though.

Do you think the affair down scenario still applies when the ow has a baby.

I must point out ow has trapped him with this baby (we have four already and one of the reasons or excuses for him leaving was that he never wanted our fourth even though he was planned at the time if this makes sense).  It was common knowledge within my h and ow's workplace that she wanted another baby.  Everyone knew it seems except my h who said we were all lying, everone else is lying .....................BAM!

Even though I know all this,  I can't help but wonder whether this would sway his decision to stay with her and live happily ever after etc.

Or will the usual 'life with the ow' behind the scenes still be occuring.

Please give me your thoughts as I really cannot see the point in standing especially if its a lost cause. 
Do you agree that the odds are stacked against me?

Since x


I have responded on your thread.

limitless

http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=2444.msg150814#msg150814
 
Me too -RCR
http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=2444.msg150815#msg150815

[superdog]

Hi,

I've been navigating some emotionally stormy waters this week. Not his, mine ! I am certain in the way I have been handling things, but something happened in him the other day which gave me cause to think he'd had a bottom out.

If you get the time can you have a quick read of my posts over the last week and let me know what you think. I know what I personally am doing so I'm not looking for any suggestions on how I change my course of action ( maybe a little validation given what I think I have seen in him.

One thing i forgot to mention in my post was that during our deep conversation he said the words "i know the grass is not greener". As he hasn't done anything different eg: move etc I assumed he was talking about OW. It was a random statement to make at the time and it was as if he had been thinking about that subject. It fits with what RCR said about them realising in limbo that the relationship would not be a permanent one.

 I know he knows it's in him. He said as much and also that he isn't capable of doing anything about it right now. If that was a bottom out, at this stage can they truly avoid liminality forever in limbo?

Your feedback would be much appreciated.

SD
x

[Ready2Transform]

Also posted in my thread:  http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=2294.70

In regards to my own crisis, I believe I may have processed through a milestone, but I'm not sure.  I know I have been in liminal depression for 6-8 months.  But this past week I've been feeling more...depression.  Less numbness, more that pain in my chest, "blues" kind of depression that I remember feeling periodically before all of this happened.  I feel the loss of my R and the last few years, not just the absence and cycling.  From what other post-Fog MLC'ers have said, is this something that's common coming out of liminality?  Is it something that's just part of it, so maybe not a milestone?  Definitely, my perspective (not just my mood) is starting to change, I can feel it.   

[JAG]

I guess my big question (and maybe others have been wondering this too) is why does my H lie about OW still being around? His best friend, his mother, and I all know that OW was in his life (as he admitted to all of us).  However, why does he continue to tell everyone she is no longer in his life (even though we all know she is still in his life)? What is the reason? Financial (so his parents will be less strict about giving him a hard time with money)? The excitement of hiding from the world? He will bring her out once the dust settles? He thinks deep inside she is not the type of woman to introduce to parents and best friend (especially since both have called her less than flattering names)? I have been trying to search for answers within the site and don't seem to find them....thanks for clarifying this.