[NoRegrets]

Just curious. I've not met my H's OW, though I have a hard time believing she didn't stalk me on FB or drive by the house, Google me, etc., when she knew about me but I did not know about her. As she was making a move on my H, I would imagine she was very curious about her rival. I would also imagine that the OW's erratic behavior ratchets up any time she feels threatened, though at least in my case, I've made it fairly clear I am no threat to her by my seeking a divorce and not contacting her. She did move to my town last summer, in a way that makes me feel as if she is invading my world.

Speaking of FB stalking...(who, me?) I notice she has posted pics of my H's naked torso (in swim trunks) minus his face, for some odd reason, and I assumed she did this to taunt me, but then it occurred to me that she may be taunting her own husband who has a girlfriend. Who knows.

Just wondering if there is a typical behavior pattern with regard to contacting the wife.

It creeps me out that she has access to keys to my home. It's always creeped me out that she touches our things (well, especially my HUSBAND!) I know she is not trustworthy.

For a while I did get a lot of silent calls made to my house, but I have no proof that it was her.

[Anjae]

Hi Starting, I never had OW1 or OW2 contacting me on any way. However OW1 was part of our cultural circle. She did not live in the same city with did but she would be there sometimes for concerts or exhibitions. We, and some other people from our social circle, were all part of a culture forum. So, she knew me a bit, I knew her a bit but not much. Just like an acquaintance you say “hi” when in a public event.

OW2 is someone that is part of husband new set of friends. I’ve never heard of her before. None of them, nor anyone that is not my friend in FB can see my wall. Husband and I are not friends on FB.

Can you change the lockers of your house and, if so, not to give a new set of keys to your husband? I’ve made my husband gave me back the house keys when OW1 come public and he stopped paying the rent. OW1 has never, as far as I know, come round where he lived. OW2 only exists since after I’ve moved out and back to our home town.

The silent calls could had been made by OW but unless you can have a record of where the call come from, and know all the numbers she has access to, there is no way to know.

[Mamma Bear]

  Cali, The articles say something about as the affair is winding down and multiple break ups and getting back together Soulmate Schmoopies    The OW may exhibit behaviors from the infatuation chemicals and hormones (biochemistry sux right?)  They send them into a frenzy of controlling panicky insanity. Right? Hang up calls. Drive bys? They get like we felt at the moments folowing BD.
  Shear terror of their worse kind of fear" Abandonment fear".
  Bowser only sent me that christmas card LOL! with Jesus and Mary on it to Thank Me for giving my H a really good article about ritalin and heart murmurs in children.
  I made my student find it. LOL!  So I laughed really hard. Can't make this up. Everyone on here told me the same...DON"T RESPOND TO HER!
  I didn't What for? A band aid sent me a card saying "Sabotage Sam was not part of my Grand plan oh but I digress..."   and these golden oldies "Sabotage Sam says a LOT of NICE things about you. Your Ds are so well adjusted" and "I know you feel a lot of animosity towards me. Probably an understatement but I hope we can somedy meet and become friends."      Blech puke Um NO!
  H was just here I'll go to my thread and say "Woo Hoo!'  He is really looking like he needs me to give him more than a hug!  I won't. Not until Bowsie is gone. I can't I am afraid of aids and herpes......and Hepatitis C and the plague and cooties and you name it.  Thanks for asking Cali. LOL!  Other than that, Bowser taunts me on FB but it's just her glaring stupidity. She thinks she's really smart.  Remember Einstein Bowser steals man's heart?   

[Stillpraying]

Since H left, I've had a number of calls that wait a while and then hang up.
hmmmm.  Could it be her?

[justasking]

The OW will use every manipulative grain in her body as time moves on to keep our H/W. Remember their relationship is based on lies, deceit and manipulation so why would you trust a man like this. OW insecurities tend to show when the affair has been running a while. That is why we should give her the rope to hang herself in the relationship and step out of the way, though this is soooo hard 

FB is one of the ways they try to get you to react, get angry and call her names to the MLCer so as they gain power as the MLCer will always protect her right to the end and she knows this.

My H OW has written to me (not nice) and frequently rings both my home and my parents to get a reaction. She waits a few seconds and then hangs up.She never gets the reaction she wants. I won't play her game nor will I give her a thought or the power she craves.

It is hard when you see photo's etc on FB but ignoring them is the best way.

I am sure others will come along and post the antics that the OW gets up to.

xx

[Shantilly Lace]

ow likes to torment me through the alt. never anything direct now but still quite obvious.

Some days just to see how closely she follows I would post certain things and time her response. 10 mins was her best...  Never said I was nice. Never never.
Mostly I ignore her.

I never reacted to her  Sometimes waited days before casually changing it to something that is nothing.

I have stopped it pretty much though now.  Bit then again anything she sees on my page is likely to get her goat. Too bad so sad.  Recently totally by accident found she had opened her page somewhat. But haven't looked since.
Blaming her dog for friending me and one of her friends commenting on a pic of Dearheart 'with a puppy growing out of his crotch' was almost too much temptation lol

So I have gone back to not looking.

[kikki]

I received a txt, about a year ago, from OW, saying 'isn't it time that you sorted this out with DIGNITY, for everyone's sake' (My H still has not pursued legal separation).

She knows we have a combined email address for work, and randomly seems to send my H emails.  These always seem to appear after a 'break up', and I'm pretty sure, they're designed to taunt me.  I push delete, and ignore them.

Today, I had a series of calls.  The first was someone hanging on the end of the phone, then angrily slamming the receiver down.  (OW pushing redial on the studio ph?, but I can't be certain).
Afterwards, there were a few more, but each time, no one was on the end of the line.  I have no idea if this was her or not, but I can't imagine who else would be p*ssed off enough to slam a receiver down on me, after not talking to me???

[watching and waiting]

During my H's first return I was receiving abusive texts.
They came from random numbers and not traceable.
It got so bad Ihad to contact the police who left a warning message.
They stopped then.

They were awful.  Told me what H and OW were up too, explicitly.
All sorts of things.
Told me she would get my H, my home etc.
Really physco.

Well I guess she thinks she won now.....

HUGS

[Trustandlove]

Previous OW sent a text clearly meant for my H to my home number (which she would have had absolutely no reason to have).  Took me a while to realise it must have been deliberate....  A few days later the home phone rang at midnight (marked number withheld) but there was no one there. 

It's not difficult to find my home number, btw, because of my profession. 

Turns out this was not long before that r ended. 

This one hasn't tried anything overt, but I know there are all sorts of pictures on FB.  I don't look. 

[sambriony]

I am just catching up on some of the threads.The whole MLC freaks me out as our stories are all the same version but when I read this I thought you can totally write the script.

OW sent me and my girls a Xmas card and signed it H,ow x2 her 2 kids.
They txt me 3 days before their wedding and she called but I didnt reply or answer. Feb 12
Ow also txt me and asked why I was so filled with bitterness and hate? hello didnt contact you,you guys contact me.(I have never initiated contact with either of them).
These OP are seriously mentally ill.A friend told me that the OW goes to my ex h work (he works in a gym) and watches him work.Secure and happy relationship that!
She says H tells her everything.It what he does show or tell you about you should be worried about lady!