[NoRegrets]

At one point near the beginning she texted me
and told me I needed to respect her and let my H go...LOL

 

So....did it turn out you needed to respect her? 

Hahahah!

[Synicca]

NR

I told her respect is earned...and since she hadnt done anything to prove that worthiness, I wouldnt and didnt.
She even said something about being the other woman, but still should be respected because my H wanted to be with
her and not me. She loved to tell me that H didnt love me anymore and that he wanted her. Funny how he was always
showing up on MY door step...LOL

[Niek]

OW never contacted me. The only thing I know is that she at least once stalked my Linkedin account. I know she made her Linkedin account cause my H asked her to do so. He was her only contact. She is a cleaning lady so why should you have a professional network. When I saw she stalked my Linkedin I told my H that I didn't tolerate that. The same day her account was deleted.
But she never calls me, she not on FB or any other kind of social media. She is completely invisible and so are her kids. Very very strange.

[Catching Fire]

"she is invisible"

Try spokeo.com They have a great email reverse search. I found OMs Internet radio account and all his favorites were same as Ws and created shortly after W opened her account.

This also verified the change in musical taste aspect of the MLC to me. I was like what the heck, since when did she start listening to this crap!

[Niek]

I have tried it, but unfortunately doesn't work for Europe.

[me]

Hi everyone,


The OW will use every manipulative grain in her body as time moves on to keep our H/W. Remember their relationship is based on lies, deceit and manipulation so why would you trust a man like this. OW insecurities tend to show when the affair has been running a while. That is why we should give her the rope to hang herself in the relationship and step out of the way, though this is soooo hard  - I am not sure how to quote but previous words from justasking.

There is no way no how the OW will ever contact me, I don't want her to especially at the moment as she will get more than she bargained for. BIG TIME.  I hope JA is right and that she will hang herself with the rope - because I have dropped it big time, my ex must be wondering what is coming next.  I have no contact and do not intend to contact him at all, not a snowballs chance in hell.  I am not fighting for a man who has put some OW before his own family - no way!  I still find this very hard, and I wish he would wake up soon (been nearly three years)! In that time I have had Great nephews and great nieces be born and to be honest they have done more "growing than I have" time to change that.

Like I said there is no way the OW will contact me, and if she does then bring it on.  She was with him at a family funeral recently and I did not look at her in the face, did not acknowledge her in any way nor will I ever - as far as I am concerned she is scum and I don't talk to scum and I don't care who "it" is with,  not happening.  She is part of his life certainly not mine and never will be. Unfortunately for her she cannot have the same, I will be in my childrens life I will be there when my kids have kids and she will be totally "blacklisted" as far as I am concerned.  He knocked my self confidence big time with this but now I am grabbing it back with both hands, I am making my own rules now and she is not a part of the equation.

Just the other day I was sitting here "praying - I am not a religious person usually" but I do think someone or something is looking after me right now.  I was praying that he would "come  to his senses" and not cause our family any more pain.  Who I am kidding. REALLY!   

I am starting to question my own sanity, wanting "my man" back - wth! Why on earth would I want someone back who was prepared to put his wife and kids through this - I know I never could.  So I am wondering why I am standing? I am being stupid,  am I not facing the facts that are staring me in the face?

Does anyone else feel this way?

Or am I really going nuts?  By the way apparently mine met OW after we split (not long after though), most people believe he did (I think I do - but who knows for sure) so is this an affair as such?