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  I do like wallow and I was reading the word muddle. I like muddle too, as a verb for them.
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I think Replay is fine for both, high and low energy MCLers. It would just be high energy replay, more turned outwards, and low energy replay, more turn inwards.

Wallow, wallowing, and other ideas/concepts are all a bit confusing/ difficult to gasp if you’re a non English native speaker Replay is pretty simple to get.

And maybe if you are an English native speaker, if you are a newbie, more terms just makes it more confusing
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  But AnneJ, Good to see you again, Replay is so large in the sphere of things. It's where all the collateral damage is accrued. They don't see it til afterwards.
  If sometimes MLCers exhibit manic behavior almost and drive to achieve their 'new life' that's replay. So is sitting on the couch ufriending your beautiful kind loyal wife on FB and she is sitting across the room. Lives at home and sleeps in another room and goes on vacation with new friends, stuff like that. 2 branches I guess of Replay Tree..I don't know ...
  Clumsy Chameleons ??? 
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« Last Edit: April 14, 2012, 07:32:51 PM by Mamma Bear »

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It may be confusing at first using terms, replay is replay but as we learn more about MLC there seems to be stages within stages, and it is important to define them, for future people if not s much for us.
The more information the better.  Just like we have MLCer


But within that we have


Vanisher
On and Off
Boomerang


and then some of it gets broken down.


The more this is studied the more we will know and be able to help others.  So IF there are stages within replay, why not name it and know what happens.  Knowledge is power
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Hi Mamma and Hope.  :) Agree, replay takes long and have different states/stages. But why not use Replay and, perhaps had a name in front or before of it according to the stage/situation?...

High Replay/Extroverted Replay?
Low Replay/Introverted Replay?
Stagnant Replay?
And so on?...

Yes, Hope, we have Vanisher, On and Off, Boomerang and then we broke them. But all those terms are pretty easy to pick for anyone (non English native speaker, newbie).

Also agree that the more we know the better. Sill unless you are writing for a community of specialists, things must be simple (not simplistic and poor) and as straightforward as possible. If the aim is to have as many people as you can informed or looking upon MLC and its issues/stages, IMO, simple and effective must be the way go.

PS: ok, thisis probably just the editor wanting to come out and edit everything down to simplicity...  ::)
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« Last Edit: April 14, 2012, 07:46:29 PM by AnneJ »
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I have selected Wallow. Just plain Wallow, though introduced initially as Low Energy: Wallow and Replay is introduced as High Energy: Replay. But then I sometimes will leave off the Low/High-Energy and use the single word.
 
AnneJ, I think adding additional names to differnetiate Replay would actually be more confusing--to me it would have the result of exactly what you are trying to avoid. I also want to avoid putting stages everywhere--like stages in stages. It's all a process and if we have a less simplistic outline, it just becomes confusing.
 
So there is
 
Separation
Liminiality
Rebirth
Reintegration
 
Those are stages. Characteristics within separation are
Rejection and Refusal (Conway's Denial)
Resentment (Conway's Anger)
Escape & Avoidance
 
Escape & Avoidance doesn't have stages so much as two types or paths--high and low energy. I like the term Escape & Avoidance because the description of the stage is entirely described in those two words. Replay is a good word, but even it needs more explanation .
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