[Rollercoasterider]

I removed the poll since I think you guys are generating much better ideas than were in it. So just keep the creative thoughts coming!
 
I'm revising my entire manuscript right now--my first ever big revision where I print it out and read through-it was 500 pages!!! I've already gone through the first 110 or so and alread cut from 500 to 472 in a week! I am now adding the Low-Energy information to the Separation chapter and revising it to have Escape & Avoid with Replay and Low as types beneath it. When I started the forum I posted a thread considering changing the label Replay to Escape & Avoid. That thread is here: http://mlcforum.theherosspouse.com/index.php?topic=65.0;all

Well, I've decided to do that in the manuscript. I now have Escape & Avoid listed with two types
High-Energy Replay
and
Low-Energy...something.
I have a short list of labels/words, but I'd like your input. I started with Poor-Me. The Replay article is about the Bachelor Party and I think I'll parallel that with the Low-E portion being the Pity-Party. But the descriptive label won't be a precise fit for all Low-E's. Some are clearly depressed and others seethe with rage just beneath the surface. But I do need a good general label. Replay is such a great word because it lends itself to other forms--Replayer. How are you going to do that with misery...miseryer...NO
 
I've reviewed the Low-E threads and am now working on articles. What  I need help with is creativity. So if you've got an ides for a label, just post it here. If you really like an idea--in the poll or another suggestion, let me know and why. I was really only looking at the top three in the poll, but thoguth I'd add the list from the thesaurus to give you more options and ideas. I'm only running this poll for 2 days. If it comes down to 2 or 3 I may run another. And of course, the final choice will be mine; it's not somuch aout who likes what best as it is about what ideas you have and why you like a label. I've also given the ability to change your vote.

[OldPilot]

So if I am reading this correctly it will be called

Low Energy XXXXXX 

where XXXXX = some other word.

And this vote is for the some other word?

I really like the term Low Energy as it is, but some other word added may make sense too.

[Rollercoasterider]

So if I am reading this correctly it will be called

Low Energy XXXXXX 

where XXXXX = some other word.

And this vote is for the some other word?

I really like the term Low Energy as it is, but some other word added may make sense too.

Yup. I've already gone through the manuscript and changed Replay references. Some I've left if the context is clearly about high-energy and sometimes I call it Replay and at other times High-Energy Replay--which is how I show it in the stages. So I will use the Low-Energy label with another term, but to parallel High-Energy Replay, I think it needs to be Low-Energy Something.

[Mamma Bear]

 A word that combines simmering rage and self pity and blame?

[Wed2Him?Whatever.]

I'm confused.

(What else is new?)

I consider my H to be a low energy MLCer, but maybe I don't have the correct idea about what low energy means.  My H threatened to leave me, but never did move out, or file for a D, or get an OW (as far as I know).  But I feel like Replay is a good word for what's going on with him because he is obsessed with the idea of school days and bachelor parties and youth and booze and endless fun, no responsibility.

Is there no such thing as Low-Energy Replay?

[Mamma Bear]

 Wed I think RCR is looking for a cool term for that... who knows? When's recess?    LOL!

[Mac49]

Consequence Avoidance

[Storm Rider]

RCR,

I know you are chasing one word, but this is a topic I have been thinking a lot about, and is from the perspective of a High Energy MLcer.. I think the second part of Replay is one of the most confusing areas, as elements of all the stages come through in this stage. For me, Hard Replay is easy to define, its the classic running and avoidance. The second half of Replay is a gradual transition. It starts with the pity party as the Tsunami of replay activities start to catch up, and energy levels start to burn out. We hear "why do I get all the bad luck" at the start of this period. The Replay activities still continue but the buzz has worn off. The MLCer, I believe, usually has a back up plan to pull their life together after blowing off steam, and perhaps they try this towards the end of Hard Replay. But they start to loose control of the ability to do so, and depression seems to hit pretty hard to parallel to this.

Signs of movement through the second stage of replay perhaps start with genuine attempts to take care of practical matters, such as finances. Admitting they are the cause of that mess shows further steps. This seems to eventually open the door to the thoughts that perhaps they actually contributed to the emotional situation too. The further along the second part of Replay they get, the more clarity comes. But to move to the next stage they need to generate enough energy to do so. Increasing depression and  withdrawal, and dips into liminality occur. It is a very grey zone, that seems to often need external events to propell through to the steps. The puzzle pieces start to be seen, but they are not yet in a place to put the puzzle together and move forward, that is the next stage? There can be a lot of clarity while stile in the second part of Replay too. Much movement looks promising, but keeps going nowhere. It is only in hindsight that we know this stage has been moved through.

The first part of replay is High Energy, but the second part for a high energy MLCer can still be High Energy too, just not as high.

To sum it up in one word? Ugggggg! OK, a better word or phrase? Running out of steam? You are not in Kansas any more Toto? What happened to my green grass on the other side? Lower Energy Confusion?

Something to suggest it is complex and it seems common to see quite a bit of the next phases mixed in too.

[JD]

May I respectfully suggest the new term be called Turtle-ing.
Just like a turtle, these individuals pull in their limbs and heads and withdraw, burying themselves in the nearest mud-bank. Trying to ride out whatever emotions have thrown their lives into chaos.

[Mamma Bear]

 wallowing turtle