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Mirror-Work Re: Prayer Thread
#40: January 24, 2011, 12:39:09 PM
I have an URGENT PRAYER REQUEST.  This is for my sister's husband. His name is Kevin Campbell. He is in Surgery ICU in very critical condition. This started 2 weeks ago when he had the flu. He was not eating or drinking much and two days later,  (Saturday) his 8 yr. old daughter ran to my sister, who is a nurse, and said Daddy is not acting right. My sister found him on the living room floor with game pieces around and he was talking gibberish. She dialed 911 and told them it was either low blood sugar, a seizure, or he was having a stroke.

It was low blood sugar and he bounced back quickly. However, since he is a 2 time kidney transplant patient, they kept him for observation overnight. Everything was well until Monday afternoon. Vicky (sis) called on her way home from work saying she was picking up Taylor (daughter) from play date and then going grocery shopping. He told her he had had some blood in his stool that day, but nothing major. He told her he felt ok then so she went on to the grocery store.

She returned about 45 minutes to an hour. She called him and he told her he could not help her carry anything inside. She said he sounded weak. Taylor opened the door first. They have a half bath downstairs in the main hallway. There was blood everywhere! Vicky said it looked like someone had butchered a hog or something. He was on the toilet, with his head leaning against the wall. Blood was on the walls, floor, light switch, and literally pouring out all over the floor. Taylor thought her Daddy was dying right in front of her. He had lost 2/3rds of his blood.

The local hospital thought the problem was his colon so they removed part of it. However, they could not actually find the source of the blood leak. His kidney stopped functioning. He was having trouble breathing. They gave him a few blood transfusions, but the blood just comes back out. After a week there, he was stable enough to transport him to University Hospital, which is a trauma, teaching hospital.

They found he has double pneumonia. Both lungs completely full of fluid. The antibiotics were not working at all. Kidney still not functioning and they are concerned it is dying. They did surgery to find out what is happening. My sister told the docs that the kidney is the last thing on her mind, since he can be on dialysis. It's the rest of him they need to save.

Where they had sutured the tubes together from the colon surgery, because he has gained 26 pounds of fluid since all this started, his kidneys not removing fluid, and his large size, the tubes had burst. He had bile leaking into his system. Therefore, not surprising he has sepsis throughout his system. And this was the reason why the antibiotic was not working for his lungs. During this surgery, he coded TWICE. However, they brought him back.

They left his stomach open; covered with what I call a saran wrap covering. They did this so they do not have to open him up again when they go inside to clean him out. They will not suture him back together until they are sure all of the bile is removed from his system.

While doing this surgery on Saturday, he had a "cardiac issue"  as the doctor put it. His blood pressure dropped drastically and they did chest compressions for 2 minutes. They said right now they have no idea if/how much heart damage was done.

After this surgery, his blood pressure kept dropping, so they upped his blood pressure medicine. They had to insert a tube through his neck for the kidney dialysis. His lungs are still full of fluid, but they are hopeful that now the antibiotic will start to work.

They have him sedated to the point of near coma. He is on heavy doses of antibiotics and on morphine for pain.They wake him periodically for about a minute or less to check his responses.  On Saturday evening he squeezed the nurse's hand on demand and wiggled his toes.

On Sunday, Vicky told him they had to shave part of his beard to insert the tube for his kidney and he raised his eyebrow....like he does when he is saying "What the...." He squeezed Vicky's hand and tried to smile. So, so far all of his responses have been appropriate and good.

He is a big man.....6'5", about 250 pounds plus. I maintain he is also a very strong man and a fighter since they have just about lost him on the table 3 times.

He became a Christian as a child, but presently they all do not attend church. My sister was raised in church and is a Christian, but does not attend church.

I am asking all of you to pray for Kevin and if you have prayer lists in your churches, please mention him. Kevin needs a miracle. In my opinion, he has already received 3 of those, since they were able to revive him. He is only 46 years old. (I think!)

This is my sister's 2nd marriage. Two months ago, she told me she was going to divorce him because she walked in on him using the internet viewing porn. I begged her to go for counseling and give him a second chance. At first she refused; telling me she was not as forgiving as I am. She is very stubborn and tends to make make snap decisions or reacts without thinking (none of us act that way, right? LOL!  ;))  But, two days later, after hearing some other nonsense and torture my husband was putting me through, she saw the light. Kevin had started counseling. They were working things out. She was determined to Stand for her marriage.


My divorce is scheduled for this Thursday. As you all know, I do not have an attorney since I still owe her money. I begged my husband to put a hold on this, especially now that my attention needs to be on my sister. My daughter is receiving a settlement from worker's comp. in a few weeks. She also asked her father to wait until she receives this, so she can loan me the money. She said to him, "give her the chance to have representation in the courtroom, like you have. She needs to be treated fairly."

My h told me he left a message for his attorney. That's all I know for now.

My attention is on Kevin; my sister and their daughter. I appreciate all of your thoughts and prayers more than you all know! You all have become cherished friends, even though I have never seen you all face to face!

Thank you!  :)



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Re: Prayer Thread
#41: January 24, 2011, 12:43:54 PM
CK,

You, your sister and her family definitely have my prayers.

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Re: Prayer Thread
#42: January 24, 2011, 12:56:47 PM
Praying!!
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Re: Prayer Thread
#43: January 25, 2011, 09:24:14 PM
An update on Kevin:

After the procedures done this weekend, they let Kevin rest some on Sunday. They opened him up again on Monday to irrigate all the gunk inside him. Last night, when they woke him up, for the first time, he was slow to respond right away. However, this morning, he responded immediately.

They did the irrigation again, and he had another cardiac issue. Again for about 2 minutes, but they brought him back. His blood pressure decreased rapidly and was dangerously low.

This afternoon while his nurse was in the room, all the bells and whistles went off on his machines and they called code blue. They put a tube in and withdrew 800 cc's of fluid from him. Again, his blood pressure went down. He was without oxygen for several minutes. They have no idea how much if any damage has been done.

My sister is a mess. As anyone would be. When I talked to her tonight, she said being a nurse is awful right now because she knows what happens to someone when all of this goes on. Her daughter is being impatient with the excuses why she can't call her father or go see him. In her words, "it's been 2 weeks, can't they get him a telephone or make him better by now?!"

And this morning she apparently asked her mother if her Daddy was going to live with Casey......their dog that died this summer. Children aren't stupid, are they?

We all, of course are asking God for a miracle. I don't care how bad it looks, I know God can heal him!

I appreciate all of your prayers.
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Re: Prayer Thread
#44: January 25, 2011, 09:47:43 PM
Prayers being said for you and your family..may you find some rest..this is so tough. God be with this family today and in  the days ahead.
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Re: Prayer Thread
#45: January 25, 2011, 10:23:45 PM
Great idea!

I pray for my children that they will know that they are loved by the universe, their parents, their extended family and their friends regardless of what happens to my M.
I pray for my H, that he works his way through his problems and eventually comes to see that he had a very happy life and he discarded it in crisis for an illusion of love. I pray for the OW, I pray that she gains some clarity about what role she has played in the destruction of a family. It is not her fault but she was complicit and I pray that whatever problems that she has in her life become something she can work on for herself so that she will desire a different relationship with someone who has not made broken commitments to another person.

I pray for peace my original family, especially my M who has struggled with my F and his problems for longer than anyone should have to. I pray for my IL family who have been so caring and helpful in all of this.

I pray for the people in my life, and indeed all of those in the world, who are dealing with sickness and death, that they will know peace and freedom from pain in whatever form that takes.
I pray for everyone on this board suffering from MLC and from other problems and even greater tragedies in their lives.
I pray for myself, that I can work on myself and become a stronger, better, more self-aware person. And I thank God for all the blessings in y life which are plentiful. Amen
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Re: Prayer Thread
#46: January 25, 2011, 10:56:55 PM
Thank you! Great idea.

My prayers are:

For my daugher, her sorrow, grief and ultimate healing.
For my husband to see what he is doing, end the affair, get the help he needs and return to us whole and happy; ready to commit to our marriage and family.
For the OW to see nothing good can come of the affair and to end all contact with my H. permanently.
For the faith and trust to get "unstuck" and make true detachment possible.
For the strength and conviction to get myself and my dauthger though this with dignity and grace, and for a lessening of the pain and grief.
For the needed friendship and support, endurance and econimic and other resources to help us not only survive, but thrive.
For happiness, peace, and contement now and no matter the outcome.

Or, like STILL, just a general prayer for my H, D,and myself on this journey toward healing.

Peace and prayers to you as well,
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Re: Prayer Thread
#47: January 26, 2011, 04:06:11 AM
I am praying and will have prayer request in my flock meeting tonight.
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Re: Prayer Thread
#48: January 26, 2011, 04:11:17 AM
Always praying...several weeks ago I added the Hedge of thorns , to further help with all of this!

keeping all of you in my prayers, thanks for doing the same!

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Re: Prayer Thread
#49: January 26, 2011, 04:33:46 AM
Dear new friends and brothers and sisters on this site,
I am glad to have found this thread, I believe in power of prayer.
I also offer my prayers for all of you, whom I have met through your threads.
I specifically ask for prayers in my situation, that the Lord may guide and deal with my husband and that he may hear the Lord's voice and joyfully return to me and the children. He is still living at home, although he wants to leave. He has denied involvement with anybody else and I choose to believe him. The Lord has spoken to me about obedience to Him and I ask that He show me the areas where I have been disobedient and that He do the same with my husband. I also pray the Hedge of Thorns daily because I feel that my h is receiving some undesirable influence from the prevailing mentality in our society nowadays - such as 'maybe separation is the answer' and 'we must be happy with ourselves, first and foremost, regardless of other people'.
He has some very deep childhood issues to face and for now, is refusing to look at them - I believe it has to do with the guilt he felt at his parents' separation when he was 14 - 16 years old. His 'hate' for the OW in their case and his father's premature death from alchoholism six years after he left home.

Thanks for praying for me
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