[Covenant for Life]

This is my 5th Mother's Day since H moved out in March of 2008.  He was with us for the first one, but has not been for any of them since.  I know he is away  - probably rock climbing.  S18 and I are going over to D20's university campus, attending church with D20 and her boyfriend and then going out to lunch.  I will be with my two children who love me very much and who stand with me for the healing of our family, for the restoration of my marriage, and for their Dad to start acting like a man instead of a thirteen year old.

I would love a call or a text from H, but certainly have no expectations.  If God wills it, then it will happen. 

Happy Mother's Day to all of the amazing mothers on this forum!

[Thundarr]

CFL,

If he's rock climbing in my state as he usually does, I'll drive down and conveniently knock him off a low one if you want.  It would be my present to you for this day.  Or, better yet, I could make him think I was some kind of psychic or angel and tell him things there's no way a stranger in another state should know such as "You need to get your butt home and man up to your responsibilities to your loving W and family!!"  That would be fun, oh yes.  Or I could just wish you all a Happy Mothers Day and leave it at that......

[Covenant for Life]

Wow Thundarr.

Thanks for the offer.  Unfortunately, H is in Wisconsin this time.  I think he was in Kentucky at the end of April and will certainly be back as he just loves to climb those rocks by you.  Are you seeing your W for Mother's Day?

[Thundarr]

Yes I am.  S7 is with me tonight and D11 is with her, and S7 and I are going to meet her at her parents' house after church tomorrow.  For the last 15-20 years or so I've always taken her and my Mom out to eat on Mothers Day and last year it was just a few days before BD and "I'm divorcing your ass."   I still have the pics of W from that day as well as the dress she wore.  She looked terrible and I didn't realize it until I looked back on it.  S7 told her I was taking Mom out to eat tomorrow but to my knowledge she hasn't mentioned going with us or me taking her out.  I am going to pick up a card and candy for S7 to give her as that's what he said he wanted to do.  He's a sweet little guy even though she has hurt him so much.

[NoRegrets]

I cannot imagine doing anything for a walk-away mother on Mother's Day.

Don't listen to me, I'm not being graceful. I just cannot imagine.

Oh, I suppose it'd be like me going out of my way to tell H he's a good father on Father's Day, and I don't think he IS a good father for walking away from his sons. Sailing/hiking/backpacking with OW instead of being there for your kids, however mundane and boring you think their life is, is just beyond horrible in my book.

To all of you who can look beyond MLC and maybe celebrate the parent (s)he used to be, or the parent they should be, or the parent they might be once again some day--you have my admiration. What you have is just not in me.

[since_youve_been_gone]

Hi TMHP

Bomb drop was around a week after last years Mother's Day (2011), so won't count that, however this year was almost a year to the day and guess what?  Nothing!!!!  Didn't expect any response from him to be honest.  He would be thinking our older children would organise flowers etc. and of course he is correct.  Still stings though thinking did he awknowledge o/w.

(((())))

SYBG 

[xyzcf]

Happy mothers day to all!

Thank goodness for pur children.

[Stillpraying]

I spent my second mother's day as a 'single' mum.  I had a lovely time with my kids and visiting Mum and H's mum.  She didn't hear from him.  He still will not reconcile with her.  She tried to contact him by text last week and asked if they could meet for coffee.  She got a few pages of Text in return.  All blaming and false accusastions and full of hate, bitterness and unforgiveness.  He said she didn't love him unconditionally becuase she didn't want him to be 'happy'.

[devoted]

Mother's Day here was in March nothing from H in fact nothing last year even though BD was not until July,I guess he was already on his way into the tunnel full steam ahead, he just assumed D23 would sort it like he always does,really really hurtful..........come to think of it nothing on my Birthday or at Christmas luckily I had no expectations but my kids did me proud x

[LoveMeMyself]

My exH and I don't have children together. His mom died in 2007 right around Mother's Day. She was in the hospital about a week or so before she passed. I believe this is what set his MLC in motion even though BD was two years later (2009). He even told me a few months after BD that he had been fighting his thoughts to leave me for two years. I'm sure he is thinking of his mom today but I have no expectations or reason that I would hear from him. I have been thinking about sending him am email later today just to let him know that I've been thinking of his mom.

I hope and pray every mom here has a wonderful and Blessed day!