[readytofixmyselffirst]

I do think we have to a place to come and vent about ow/om. Come on, I would so love to tell my w off about her om. I mean he is an real jerk and I would love nothing but to come face to face with him. Turn him into a jigsaw puzzle with a couple of peices missing. I am sure when Buggy's sister confronted ow, she used a few choice words for both of them.

I understand the language and not wanting to offend. However, we do ask that people come and vent on our forum. I think bowser and sasquatch, English Tosser, cockroach, flying monkey witch, and a few others have to be allowed.

In many ways, it allows us to reclaim our own dignity by dehumanizing them when we are at lowest point.

I crossed the line the other day and I just owned up, apologized, moderated and moved on. Yes, our spouses are just as much as fault, but the om/ow knows that they are involved with married people and that is something to ponder as well.

Just my thoughts!

[WhatAboutUs]

Mayor guilty,

GH you are so right to point this out. I'm happy that MF edited my posts yesterday, it was not done using the other word for ow. I see that now. In real life, when I do have to mention ow, I stick to 'her or she'. (most of the time, not always but I'm only human).
 
After this past week where so many hurtful things happend, this was just a way to release my anger and pain. That doesn't justify anything I know but I do hope you understand a bit. I am really sorry and ashamed. I did not totally realise that this word was such a big curseword in English language. Won't use it again and stick with ow. It's just so hard to keep focusing on yourself and not at H/ow when so many ugly things happen to you in one week time.

Again, thanks for bringing this up and change it. Also I appreciate the way you mention this indirectly by starting this tread. And you didn't directly accused me in your supportive and loving reply at my post. I really couldn't have handled that yesterday. Thank you so much for caring and understanding.

Huggs ans many excuses again
Another lesson learned
WAU

[Shantilly Lace]

NOt worried about the venting, or name calling really, It’s the unpleasant swear words that are used as “pet names”


We need to vent.

[In this for ME]

In many ways, it allows us to reclaim our own dignity by dehumanizing them when we are at lowest point.

That's it in a nutshell- I wish I knew what would be an unpleasent swear word to call theses ow/om.  I think anything goes as far as I'm concerned.

 Offended by a word someone might use to call someone who knew what they were getting into, this total stranger that interfeared instead of opting out? Really??

Sorry folks I'm not seeing anything more offensive that what they did to provide the catalyst. And as for the MLCERS I've got a few choice pet names for them also. And believe it or not I was never a name caller before this happened!!!

I will hold in the belief that deep down our spouses are still there and they KNOW what they are doing. There may be a confusion and fog and avoidence but the base person is still there.

After this past week where so many hurtful things happend, this was just a way to release my anger and pain. That doesn't justify anything I know but I do hope you understand a bit. I am really sorry and ashamed. I did not totally realise that this word was such a big curseword in English language. Won't use it again and stick with ow. It's just so hard to keep focusing on yourself and not at H/ow when so many ugly things happen to you in one week time.

Don't be ashamed they are after all only words and might keep you from doing something more extreme. The anger and pain NEEDS TO BE RELEASED!!

[I believe in angels]

Hi do you know what I call my H ow, THE INCIDENTAL. She was incidentally there, he could have picked anyone, she was just there at the right time and the right place.  That means she was not really picked for any qualities, she was just there.  Thinking of her that way makes her really insignificant to me as she was and is nothing special.