[Thundarr]

http://marriedmansexlife.com/take-the-red-pill/

This site seems to be gaining in popularity by leaps and bounds, and several of my compadres on LT have jumped on board.  Since we have so many wonderful ladies on here I have been thinking that I would like to hear from them as to whether or not this guy knows what he is talking about or is full of $h!te.  Not only am I interested in getting female (and male) perspectives on this, but since almost all of the female members here are family women who believe in marriage I'm not going too far out on a limb when I say that these are the kind of women that us LBS guys will be interested in if we don't end up back with our W's (meaning women with values and who can be trusted).  I hope I worded that correctly.....

Anyway, please check out the link and share both your opinions as well as observations from female friends.  Thanks!!

[calamity]

Okay, don't anyone else look at that site unless they have their spouses home & reconnecting, etc. 

Thundarr, I am not reading any more b/c I am not exactly IN a relationship right now.  It looks kinda shallow at first but,  & here's where I stopped reading:  the 10 second kiss is GOLD.

[FindingJoJo]

I think for me it is so soon and really that is the last thing I am thinking about at this stage.  I started to read and realized that I had no desire to feel those feelings at this point unless it was with my H.  Maybe my mind will change but I put faith in my feelings that it wasn't something that I could explore nor was it something that I should.  It is contrary to being healthy for my own personal journey at this point is the message I strongly received.

[Anjae]

“So Alpha Traits create attraction and that “in love” feeling, and Beta Traits create the pair bond and makes her feel relaxed enough to have sex.”

“A Nice Guy is a man that typically has very low Alpha Traits, and a good amount of Beta Traits. This means he can establish what amounts to good friendships with women, but cannot convert those friendships into the sexual relationship with them that he wants. He’s always confined to the Friendzone with them, and watches helplessly in pain and confusion as “less nice” men make easier progress to having sex with his love interest.”

I think there is a big contradiction between the two quotes above.

“That being said, I think you’re basically saying that you’re becoming a little more forceful and bold with your wife. Which is good and all going to plan. That’s the stuff that’s going to “turn her on”.

A little more forceful and bold?... The simper use of the word forceful connected with wife is a huge, massive red flag.

To me it sounds pretty much life the stuff one can get in Men’s magazines. That is as useless (and even dangerous) as the one oen can get in Women’s magazines.

“Women love strong men and enjoy such men leading them in relationships.”

Really?... I thought we prefer men that would be complementary to us, not men that think they are our leaders and lead us... We're women, not children.

“Also in order for a husband to have a great sex life, he’s also got to have a sexually fun wife. So these articles also encourage the wives to try new things and generally $l()t it up… just for him.”

Rude, is the least that can be said of the above. There are many ways of saying the same thing and the way he wrote is just plain inelegant and unattractive.

To put it nicely, I would never date, let alone marry, the guy that is running that website. Or any with a similar mind frame.

[Dontgiveup]

I did not read much of this......I am not sure I see how it relates to MLC.

[calamity]

DGU & Thundarr--'Exploring other possibilities' is part of the process for some LBS--at least it was for me.  I only thought about it but I did consider seeing other men.  Maybe I was thinking of making h jealous or boosting my self-esteem or whatever.  Here we call it 'on the rebound'.  And, no, I would not act on it b/c I am married. 

To make him jealous:  I was going to get 2nd hand men's clothing & leave it around the house.  You know, really long legged jeans, size 12 boots...made me laugh at least.

cj

[NoRegrets]

Thundarr--

Everything I read I agree with so far at the MMSL site.

[readytofixmyselffirst]

I am like DGU, what is the point? I am going to be honest. My w has physical problems, may not ever be physical with me or anyone else again. However, I still love her and commited to my vows. Honestly, maybe I am a weak and worthless man,  but as far as I am concerned, even if it works and is foolproof, acting like a jerk is not me and no matter what, I am true to myself and how I act. I would rather go without than sell myself out.

 I don't see much out of this site except to hurt our female LBSer by telling them that newer is better.

[NoRegrets]

Though I will say that this post completely flies in the face of MLC:

http://marriedmansexlife.com/2012/06/what-would-jennifer-do/

It may be assumed by some that xH wasn't getting the three things described in his marriage, but we here at HS know otherwise.

Funny thing about that post, too--the title and my xH's OW have something in common! 



Ohhhhhhh, this is a good one:

http://marriedmansexlife.com/2012/05/what-to-do-when-youre-torn-between-wife-and-girlfriend/

[Thundarr]

I did not see the parts related to the female LBSers, but rather was focused on the parts about what our W's want in a mate according to the author.  His assertion that women ultimately prefer Alpha men even though they nag us to become more Beta was interesting.  Also interesting was the fact that giving in to them ultimately pushed them away.  Not being female I didn't know if this were true or just perhaps a bitter, jilted man ruminating on why he is single.  NoRegrets, I find it interesting that you agree with him.  So is it true that deep down most women prefer the Alpha man?