[Songanddance]

Thanks onlyJo
I just thought  that it would be cool if we all share links we find useful because I have loved so many of the ones I have found on threads but know there are so many more really good ones that I've probably missed!
The more we learn - the more we grow!!

[Songanddance]

Here are some more on co-dependency and BPD

http://www.downwardspiralintothevortex.com/2012/03/codependency-and-borderline-personality.html

http://www.eharmony.com/blog/2013/06/20/codependent-relationships-how-to-know-if-youre-in-one-and-how-to-break-the-pattern/#.Ug309qtwbIU

http://codependencerecovery.com/

[calamity]

http://www.abandonment.net/  For lbs.

[Songanddance]

This is the guy I first listened to when BD happened.
 He quite literally saved my sanity. His MP3 on midlife crisis marriage has to be purchased but he has now started doing weekly podcasts which you can access free from ITunes  or hit on this site and link that way.
Some of his blogs are very pertinent but throughout all his blogs and MP3s he talks about the importance of changing for yourself.
http://savethemarriage.com/stmblog/

[Songanddance]

Another one about letting go..

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/40-ways-to-let-go-and-feel-less-pain/

[Songanddance]

One about detachment
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NkHT4jqRBGo

[R]

Wow, you've been busy, Songanddance - I have got so much to catch up on - late night reading!

Thanks for pulling all these together
xx

[Songanddance]

there's more to upload - but one bit at a time!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xyvyzYOWLmI

this one is a little rambling but she makes an interesting point about 7 mins in!

[Songanddance]

And another one!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mz9SIJGNw7U

5 mins in - there is reference to relationships.
2 good phrases  What we resist it will persist.
and
Hurt people hurt other people!

[calamity]

I don't know who writes this.  Someone from here?  I recognize some posts.  Good overview anyway.

http://www.midlifemaze.com/Is-it-a-Midlife-Crisis-.html