Hi Sheperdess,
Though I am familiar with your site, I do not know it in depth and have not visited for some time. But thank you for stopping by. You are welcome to post your link and to directly invite the new MLCer to your forum in a public post or through private message. I visited her thread at the other forum and have read what went on there.
I actually felt she was not attcked in the least. A member did call her out on what she was saying and she lashed out in anger and said she would leave. Some said they didn't think she was in the right place and though she was welcome I think they may have been correct. She thought it was a place for supporting people in MLC and it was a support for the wives of MLCers.
We are also a support for MLC spouses, but she is welcome. But will we provide her what she is seeking...?
I think that she does not yet understand why some LBSs will be angry with her. We can provide her an insight into how betrayed spouses feel and will not advocate infidelity, but we will still offer her HUGS and guidance. But we cannot offer her like-minds because we are on the other side.
What came off as attacking on her other thread happened after she got angry and left. The comments then were honest feelings about good riddance, but were not directed at her since she was no longer speaking--though could have been listening. At that point another poster called out the others for chasing her away rather than welcoming her and they then got mad back at the poster who called them out...it turned into a bit if a spat and though I did not agree with the poster who claimed they were rude and chased her away, I felt the others were rude to her and it felt like an attack.
But as for how they directly treated the woman in MLC, I saw nothing wrong with it.