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MLC Monster Re: Monstering towards mother and not wife?
#10: November 16, 2012, 10:06:57 AM
My H's mother won't set boundaries. His brother and sister-in-law are going through a very contentious divorce right now and has the full support of his mother. She has always alienated the daughters-in-law and does't think they are good enough for her sons. She supports whatever they do 100% saying that they "deserve" to be happy. I guess everyone else is just collateral damage. She is already estranged from 3 grand-children and is close to being that way with my son......I guess because she has control of her sons and can manipulate them with guilt she has to get their wives out of the way because we put our foots down and don't cater to her. Her grand-children just get in the way as they take the attention off of her. My H used to stand up to her as did his father, but when his father passed away he was drawn more and more to his mom. Who knew it would get this way later on?

I remember at his fathers memorial service she wanted a family picture so she put everyone up on the choir risers and arranged them like she wanted. I was waiting to see where she wanted me when she handed me the camera and asked me to take the picture!!! She didn't consider me family I guess even though I was married to her son!!!
My H's father was involved in a barbershop quartet also, and they sang to her at my FIL's memorial service. I would have been a basket case in tears, but she sat in a chair like a queen all smiles and happy while they hovered around the chair and sang to her. I know people grieve in their own way, but she was actually enjoying it because it was all about her!  :o

She is a very vindictive, jealous, selfish person hiding behind a cloak of Christianity that isn't real......at least not in her actions. I guess I'm seeing the shallowness of her personality manifest itself in my H during MLC. I think it is her dysfunction that bought his ticket on this crazy train during his childhood. She very much favored his brother over him and was never happy with my H's accomplishments......and how it wasn't fair that my H had good things, but his brother deserved them more. Yikes! 
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