[In this for ME]

OW for him is now out of the picture. But he denied the kind of person she was until just recently.

Being an exprostotute  he was wrapped up in the rapture of sex being love and couldn't see past the extremely damaged person she really was.
He since found out all she was after was his money and that she depised his daughters and he recntly told d18 that ow knew she would always be second best to them

OW is or was extremely jealous of the girls but put on this mask that she would love them like her own.
She already has another man living with her after only one month of being ousted from ExH's house.

All of this just happened last week. We had two phone converstions that did not go well. He dumped everything to me the whole sordid story. He tells me to walk away. I have been trying to since I left 7 months ago but he keeps contacting me about every ten days. So now I've been nc for five and have decided to ignore any contact from him from now on.

[Hope for Zen]

I'm sort of getting a re-introduction to OW.  I originally had her pegged as sort of a victim, but now believe she is more of a predator. 

[In this for ME]

Bingo HFZ..same here... in less words than I used before!!

[sambriony]

Predator yes...the worst kind.
HB do you really think the mask always slips eventually?
Yes mines is def BDP. controlling manipulative dosesnt want H anywhere near us.he has only visited 3 times since BD. When he txts he spews. I have been NC for 16 of the 18months.

[lightandlove]

The OW is my ex best friend who I recently started to see the light on.. even before they ran off together. She is very selfish and self centered.. She has the what are you going to do for me next?  Attitude.. my BIL even said she was a predator.. She was raking in my H for quite some time.. H her was dying of cancer and did pass in May 2010.. In August I got the bomb.  She has been heard to say, and has said it to me, about her kids, "That is a responsibility I wish I could get rid of"!  nice gal eh...  he left me for that!

[With Gods Help!]

http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200910/beyond-betrayal-life-after-infidelity

Some may have read it wanted to post it for those that havent xxx

[readytofixmyselffirst]

Good article. Read about the romantic affairs when it comes to MLC. Just my opinion.

[Synicca]

WOW!

Very very intersting! Thanks for sharing!

[StandandDeliver]

Thanks WGH - I read that when I first discovered H's affair and was trying to make sense of it. At the time it seemed that the likelihood was that H was experiencing the romantic, "drug-like", escape from his own depression affair, but I was too close to the situation at the time to be sure.

Re-reading it now, I absolutely know that this is the kind of affair H is in. I also suspect that his OW is a "spider woman" of sorts, she has alluded to a serious break down in her R with her F as a child and she claimed that she couldn't leave her previous boyfriend because she couldn't afford to live somewhere on her own despite them "hating each other", but very surprisingly engineered a situation where she was able to leave him when H offered her an apartment to live in with him!

[Buggy31]

Such validation.  WGH you find very good resources...keep them coming.  So many of these things were right on target for my H and had been what I've been shown about his R with OW...It's an ugly desperate thing...my goodness