[MIMIx]

I'm pretty sure that I have a low energy mlc'er.

Would he be a low energy mlc'er if he is,

Wandering aimlessly without a plan?
Secretive?
In hiding?
Not spending money?
No OW?
Fantasizing?
No place of his own and living with friends and family?
Overly polite?  Talking to me as if I were a family friend?
No conflict?
Feeling sorry for himself?
Confused?
At a loss for words?

It's hard to take,  but I am thankful to not be put through the nightmare of a high energy mlc'er.

I'm just not sure if he will ever come out of this.

[Thunder]

It sure sounds like it, MIMix.

Mine was pretty much the same.  Big on the fantasy life.

The good thing is he may not find an ow, the bad thing is it may take him longer to get though his crisis than a High-Energy type because they don't live out their fantasies and hit reality sooner.

[MIMIx]

I would agree Thunder.  On the other hand, I am pretty high energy, so it is painful for me to face this very slow process.  It feels like sticking needles in your eyes! Lol

I feel that my h has moved into a new stage.  He has stopped spending lots of money, stopped the travelling and has gone very, very quiet.  Feels a bit eerie...like a storm may be coming.  I hope not!

[tristana]

I am in the same situation. 
And oh, after 10 months of living with my MLCer I know that feeling at the end of a cycle - what's next?

[MIMIx]

Yes, I don't know what to expect next.  I'm just trying to stay away from it.  It feels a bit scary!  I hope he is not making final plans behind my back!

 

 

[tristana]

MiMix, if you financially secure, independent, you have nothing to fear. 

[MsT]

Bumping this up, I know the low-energy threads don't get updated as much but I'm kind of curious to here more different situations with them. I know a lot of them wallow after their affair is a fantasy.

[OffRoad]

Mine is currently low energy. That may change. He was a low energy person all through high school, then went sort of high energy in college, but that is only because of the people he hung out with (I was one of them), was fairly high energy in the beginning of our relationship/marriage (But I'm a go and do it kind of person) and then about five years ago, dropped back to low energy again.

I'm thinking my H is trying to get back to college, but everyone he knew moved on with their lives. Very few sit around playing video games for hours on end and none seem to blame everyone else for problems of their own making. 

[MsT]

I think mine is headed there. He set off with a big bang, but that seems to have fizzled out.
He doesn't seem to have anything to do when he's not at work.
Also hasn't changed his mailing address and stays at his dad's when he's not working.
Still a miserable jerk.

[OldPilot]

Low energy can also morph into a vanisher,
once we were divorced, she was GONE.

She moved 1200 miles away and I only hear about it through my children.

And Ms OP if you are still stalking me here, have a good life!