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OP: March 08, 2013, 08:37:27 AM
There is a discussion going on, on another forum that I though I would bring here too.

Read the other forum to try to figure out what your sense of purpose in Life is?

http://www.marriageadvocates.com/ubbthreads/ubbthreads.php/ubb/showflat/Number/283847/gonew/1/Topic_8a_Awakening_of_Purpose_#UNREAD

Then we can discuss it here.

I am interested in what people think there sense of purpose in life is..
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#1: March 08, 2013, 09:55:20 AM
This is the problem exactly.  My sense of purpose is lost.  I am at the point in my life where mothering is done & now being part of a team is done...I have no idea why I am still here.  That sounds dramatic & sad but didn't mean to--I really have no idea--make a good home for cats?
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Re: What is your sense of Purpose?
#2: March 08, 2013, 10:45:16 AM
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Start with "What makes you happy"?

Don't think about it in terms of specific relationships with other people, like "being a good mother" or "being in a fulfilling marriage".

What makes you happy? If money and time were no obstacles, what would you be doing right now?
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Re: What is your sense of Purpose?
#3: March 08, 2013, 10:58:52 AM
This is interesting OP.  It seems that some people think it is their job - the work they do.
I think that isn't it.  More that it is something that is integral to who we are, not what we do for paid employment.

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Re: What is your sense of Purpose?
#4: March 08, 2013, 11:03:11 AM
To be good to others as I would like them to be good to me.  Be a good friend, daughter, wife and to enjoy the life I have been given while I'm lucky enough to be on this earth. I have always been drawn to the helping/nurturing areas from a young age.  Went to school for special Education/Psychology and have worked in both a Psychiatric Hospital and Developmentally Disabled center for the last 28 years.  I know it feels great to make my disabled clients smile. 
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Re: What is your sense of Purpose?
#5: March 08, 2013, 11:10:41 AM
This would have different answers for each part of our lives:  professional, personal, family.  And I would be at this point with/without my h btw.  It's the time of life.  When the nest is empty [somewhat] you go, 'now what?' 
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#6: March 08, 2013, 11:23:09 AM
Quote from: calamityj on March 08, 2013, 11:10:41 AM
This would have different answers for each part of our lives:  professional, personal, family.  And I would be at this point with/without my h btw.  It's the time of life.  When the nest is empty [somewhat] you go, 'now what?'

I was asking specifically about the "personal"; that's why I excluded things that entailed specific relationships to other people, like co-workers and family.

Regardless of what your H is doing, regardless of what is happening at work: if you could be doing something right now that makes you happy, what would it be?
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Re: What is your sense of Purpose?
#7: March 08, 2013, 11:35:38 AM
The thing that I could be doing that would make me happy is going back to Bible College. I do feel like my sense of purpose at the core is to bring Glory and Honor to our Lord and Savior. To give my testimony whenever the opportunity presents itself. To gain a greater knowledge of what I believe and why.

In the meantime I would really like to create a center where disabled or developmentally challenged children could utilize horses as therapy. Riding is very theraputic.
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#8: March 08, 2013, 12:19:23 PM
Hey great question and certainly not an easy one to answer straight off the bat.

I have always had a yearning and want to work alongside animals. I applied for the RSPCA when i was younger but unfortunately life costs money and i had to get a career job to pay for it. I also did not think ultimately i was hard enough to deal with what i would see.

If time and money were no object now i would buy my own shelter for re-homing and it would fit with my desire to be outdoorsy. If i ever feel down i just look at or touch one of my pets and it brings an instant smile to my face. I reckon that i am in this life in a caring capacity, but i do not feel drawn to humans for some reason. It's always been about the animals. I utterly adore them.

I have a plan already to fulfil some of that and as soon as my kids turn 10 ( which they have to be) we will be volunteering at the rehoming centre affiliated with my work.

Is that what you mean?

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Re: What is your sense of Purpose?
#9: March 08, 2013, 12:21:33 PM
As a Christian, I would answer that with the Westminster Catechism!
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Q. 1. What is the chief end of man?
A. Man’s chief end is to glorify God, and to enjoy him forever.

Our identities get so messed up in this, don't they? i.e.:I know what my purpose in life is, I guess I confused it with being a wife...

So now, I will glorify God first and enjoy His company  :)

He will reveal what I am to do with the rest of my life - there are many things I would still like to accomplish based on personal preferences, I am waiting for His counsel - meanwhile, I continue to care for my family (what is left of it), work to earn a decent salary, make up my time for retirement  :)

Thanks for reminding me of this essential truth!
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