[LisaLives]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/08/marriage-satisfaction-gene_n_4066028.html?utm_hp_ref=divorce&ir=Divorce


Short genes, combined with midlife stress equals MLC and infidelity... 

[limitless]

Interesting article.

So in addition to a blood test, you should also check DNA prior to obtaining a marriage license.

Are we pre-programmed for unhappiness. I certainly hate to think so.

I'd like to think we have some choice in the matter of our lives. 

[DCD]

Short genes, combined with midlife stress equals MLC and infidelity...

hahahaaa!! sorry - not to minimize the info here but when i read this quote, i immediately thought of when husband and i first started dating, what irked me about him was his insistence on wearing jeans that were a bit too short.  i eventually convinced him that the longer inseam was a better look.  my first thought was "holy wow! he was destined to cheat!!!" ok...off to read the article 

[OldPilot]

I just had my DNA tested so I wonder if they will tell me what I pretty much already know, that I have two long genes, but since I was only 50% of my marriage it didn't count anyways.

Interesting article.

[Anjae]

The article is interesting but... if fails to say that genes alter during our life. Genes alter for many reasons, including the ambient a person lives in.

"Individuals with two short alleles of the gene variant may be like hothouse flower blossoming in a marriage when the emotional climate is good and withering when it is bad,”

There is a "may" there, not a certanty. And have the spouses of everyone here withered when the emotional climate was bad (I'm not taking about MLC)? I doubt. If they always did it we would had noticed.

MLC is not mentioned anywhere in the article so I cannot see how one concludes that two short 5-HTTLPR = MLC. Also, there are people who are tremendously unhappy in their marriages and never have a MLC. 

[LisaLives]

anjae--You have to extrapolate.  What it says is that as we age we are more susceptible to genetic expression, so at the end it does say that at midlife they noticed a greater unhappiness than before--remember this was a longitudinal study. 

Further, the people with two short alleles are more susceptible to unhappiness in a poor emotional climate--perhaps caused by the stress of life at midlife--where they may not have faced that before.  How many times do we say on here that MLC is OFTEN precipitated by a traumatic event or crisis, or just the adjustment to life--"is this all there is?" 

What I would hypothesize is that an R with two dominants or two recessives, all would be hunky dory, but in an R where you have a dominant and a recessive, you might be more likely to have MLC.  The dominant is less susceptible to the disharmony--we just kept on keeping on.  How many of us admit that things were tough, and maybe we had problems, but they were NORMAL problems?  But our recessive MLCers caved...

Think about it, I think it's interesting.  Even that there are genes that possibly predict emotional response...  I predict a day when Match.com has genetic profiles...  Love and light, ll

[OldPilot]

I predict a day when Match.com has genetic profiles...

I dont know about match.com but 23andme is already performing DNA  evals for $100.00
I just had mine done for ancestry type things, they have all sorts of surveys that you take and I will look into this portion.

Once I get my results it should prove to be interesting.

[forthetrees]

http://www.livescience.com/40254-brain-chemicals-guide-attraction.html
scroll down and look for the testosterone info


http://www.livescience.com/12854-love-thee-experts-count-ways.html

[in it]

But though personality may drive initial love and attraction, Fisher has found that keeping that loving feeling requires one specific skill: maintaining positive illusions about a loved one, or "the simple ability to overlook everything you cannot stand in someone," she said.

Well I'll tell you what? I overlooked A LOT!!!
My patience finally ran out!!!
And guess what?
All that was left was an illusion of a relationship I thought I had. I was having the relationship IN MY OWN HEAD!

Never gonna do that again.

[Slow Fade]

But though personality may drive initial love and attraction, Fisher has found that keeping that loving feeling requires one specific skill: maintaining positive illusions about a loved one, or "the simple ability to overlook everything you cannot stand in someone," she said.

This is why love is a choice and not just a feeling. When you CHOOSE to love, the feelings will follow. Too many people let their feelings drive their choices.......