[iamnottheenemy]

Dancing in the Rain, do we have the same H?  I got:

Why do you always have to be right?

We were more like roommates.

I'm going to live a life that's well below your standards. 

Others:

I don't give a damn what anyone else thinks.

You're a good mom, just not a good wife.

Now I have a better idea of what I need in a wife than I did 20 years ago.

I don't want to give you false hope.

Who knows, maybe in two years we can all go on vacation together!

[CallanG]

 Oh the "False Hope " , that is a classic , along with "if I speak to you it will give you some hope ".

 

[cherryblossom]

Told me I was in denial and needed help because we were finished and I wasn't accepting it. (2 days after BD)

Brokenhearted: I have heard this one too, almost word for word. He just doesn't understand why I can't move on. Really? We were together 22 years! Ugh.

I got this one aswell , he even sent me a list of Councellors . So helpful 

I forgot about it until you mentioned but I got a version of this as well:

You know we don't work together.  Now we can just get divorced without a lawyer - we can do it all online and I'm happy to be amicable.  I'm not going to throw you out into the street.  I don't hate you.

Could I just say 

This wasn't even in person - all done over the phone.  I think that's also Script - whether it's text, email or phonecalls - it's avoiding face-to-face...

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[Ready2Transform]

Now we can just get divorced without a lawyer - we can do it all online and I'm happy to be amicable.

Almost word for word (he didn't suggest online probably because it would mean effort on his part)!  The whole "it's only amicable if you don't have a lawyer and just let me walk away with no responsibility" thing would be funny if it weren't so infuriating.

Oh, and if I say anything that makes any sense, even if it's totally unrelated, he will yell, "But I'm not trying to hurt you!". 

[CallanG]

CB . Oh yes cant possibly speak to us face to face . Mine will only use his work email, maybe OW checks his phone , mine cant contact me at the moment  because he needs to get his emotions sorted . 

[alwayshope]

Last nights text gave me the 'you are a great mom and a bad wife', which he then followed up with that is why he 'shut down and became a bad husband'.  He's mentioned 'false hope' a hundred times.  Only wants to text me as he says our conversations are back and forths over the same things. 

[NoRegrets]

Now we can just get divorced without a lawyer - we can do it all online and I'm happy to be amicable.

Almost word for word (he didn't suggest online probably because it would mean effort on his part)!  The whole "it's only amicable if you don't have a lawyer and just let me walk away with no responsibility" thing would be funny if it weren't so infuriating.

Oh, and if I say anything that makes any sense, even if it's totally unrelated, he will yell, "But I'm not trying to hurt you!".

WOW, mine, too!

Just the word, "Amicable." Most overused MLC word, early on, when they are all infatuated.

"We can keep this amicable. We don't need lawyers. We can go through mediation. It will save a lot of money."

See? Easy! I've got it alllllllllll figured out! And we'll all be friends, and you two women can dote on me! Awesome!

[Faithfully Yours]

Last nights text gave me the 'you are a great mom and a bad wife', which he then followed up with that is why he 'shut down and became a bad husband'.  He's mentioned 'false hope' a hundred times.  Only wants to text me as he says our conversations are back and forths over the same things.

AH: I got this one constantly. He will only text me. And lately he texts in the middle of the night. Huh?

I got the we can do it on the internet crap too and it is going to be amicable. I will never abandon my kids. Huh, REALLY?!

Oh the "False Hope " , that is a classic , along with "if I speak to you it will give you some hope ".
 

Yep. My H won't speak to me or ask how I am because it will give me false hope. What? You are sleeping with the OW, how can I have hope? Ugh.

This thread has really helped me to understand MLC that they all are almost textbook. We should write a book. LOL.

[2.roads]

I keep checking this thread every day...soooo funny. It really should be compiled into a book...

I remembered a few more remarks from H's bottomless well of stupid:

"All you ever cooked for the kids were fish sticks and fries"  ( such total BS...I LOVE to cook! )

Said to 3 of our 4 kids :  "I've done my time in the tank with the shark ( meaning marriage to me), now I'm going to take my chances swimming with the piranha" (meaning dating I guess  )

" The OW cares more about your kids than you do...she brought them a pie at Thanksgiving" Hmmmm.... I suppose you can trade your dad for a pie, in this case it might have been a good deal...

"I'm going to pray for you, that God frees you from these demons that are inside you".  Such classic projection.

[With Gods Help!]

I also got so and so had an affair and their OK.............i said if you mean having no friends and family is worth it all this heartache then more fool you.........

today my h called after i asked him not to ............brought me a lovely sandwich...........ha that's what happens when you tell them as it is.......anyway he went to a funeral yesterday i should have gone but could not.......anyways i find out that the man who is 49 yrs old had an heartache at o/w's house and died (hes been married over 25 yrs) ow found him when she got home..........he had been seeing her 2 and half yrs (mlc me thinks).....i found out the o/w comes from the same area as H's o/w ..........so when he calls and were discussing the funeral..........i said its disgusting what that o/w put the dead mans wife through.........i also said to h........o/w comes from same the same area as your o/w i said are they all $l()ts that live up there and do they go around on tandam bikes riding anything that moves............h looked like this  said I'm not arguing......Well how could he...........that poor wife is heart broken..........o/w was out drinking and socialising the day after his death

Me.........why are you with o/w you know you don't love her
H what i do and how i feel as nothing to do with you get on with your own life
me....i would if you stopped texting me every minute of the day.........IL remember that though the next time you need to talk
h....NO i didn't mean that I'm sorry..........newbies this is much further along in the process though

H you need to lose my last name.......me i don't think so with all the sh it you have put me through Ive bloody earned it
h well divorce me then........i said no way am not paying for a D...........if you want one you do but make sure you cite adultery as the reason........i want o/w named and shamed in the newspaper.........h never asked again lol

h said my voice irritated him.....that's when he knew we were done.....(he had met o/w a few months before, i didn't know)
its funny that cos now when i don't talk h asks me whats wrong lol xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx