[Reinventing]

CallanG, that text conversation should be framed and posted as an example of the 'complex' thought process we LBS suddenly find ourselves dealing with. Unbelievable.

[CallanG]

CallanG, that text conversation should be framed and posted as an example of the 'complex' thought process we LBS suddenly find ourselves dealing with. Unbelievable.

The worst thing he had me thinking I had imagined the whole don't contact  me conversation .

[kikki]

Love the cat story 

Re the completion of tasks and procrastination pre BD, I wonder if this is a personality style, rather than anything to do with MLC, because my H was the opposite. 
What he said - he did and followed through with, started major projects and finished them.

[Still Kicking]

What I'm wondering is if the personality style correlates with the type of MLCer.  Are the ones who don't finish projects the Wallowers and are the ones who were workaholics or super-responsible the crazy Replayers?  Or is it all over the place across the board? 

I do see several other types--ones who felt something was always wrong and it just got exaggerated during MLC and others who were totally shocked when theirs did a complete 180 in behavior. 

[kikki]

What I'm wondering is if the personality style correlates with the type of MLCer.  Are the ones who don't finish projects the Wallowers and are the ones who were workaholics or super-responsible the crazy Replayers?  Or is it all over the place across the board? 

That's a really good point SK.  My H would definitely fit in with this.  Workaholic - was super responsible - now a crazy high energy replayer.  Tick.

[cherryblossom]

CallangG that Cat Conversation 

My H was one of those guys who only ever did the bare minimum when it came to work and life in general.  He even said he was lazy.  I used to say that he just hadn't found something to motivate him, because I believed in him and thought that was a negative attribute to associate with yourself.  Now he's quite high-energy rather than a wallower, so I guess there's maybe more at play than that correlation.  I mean there would be, wouldn't there - this is MLC - it ain't gonna be simple or logical 

[Ready2Transform]

That's a really good point SK.  My H would definitely fit in with this.  Workaholic - was super responsible - now a crazy high energy replayer.  Tick.

Ditto!  I can definitely timeline when things were stalling with when the crisis had started.

[DCD]

sigh...funny, sad, exhausting - but mostly batsh!t crazy!

husband (within two weeks of agreeing not to introduce son to ow but did the weekend i went away for my birthday): "i'm not deceitful and i didn't lie! i would have told you if you had asked me" (which i did but he denied until i told him son told me) "besides, i was hesitant (at least you were hesitant)...and it didn't go very well...and it won't happen again" (but did less than a month later)

"she's crazy and screams at me constantly...and maybe this will make her less crazy"(referring to separation agreement)

"i'm stuck"

"i didn't leave son - i left you" then didn't see or call son for a week.

"she has some good qualities - not a lot... you have a lot of great qualities!" ...

and the best one from last week:

(sitting across from me and looking completely serious) "i think you're going through a midlife crisis, too"...too??    because i bought a pair of cobalt blue skinny jeans 

[Still Kicking]

You had better check you car choice, Different Colored Days.  Sounds like you've gone off the deep end to me.  Although I briefly looked at these jeans with a lizard skin print on them but luckily they were skinny jeans and anatomy kept me from making that mistake. 

I have a feeling Cherry Blossom will be correct in it being all over the place but couldn't help but wonder about it.   I had a low energy before BD with two whopping months of partying, drinking (he doesn't normally drink much) and going out in Hawaiian shirts with an OW right after followed by back to low energy and OW seems to have faded out.  But I guess he's not done so there is still time for him to get a second wind.

[DCD]

Haha!! A gray toyota "hunchback" (hatchback) just like the one you had to share with your mom and older brother when you first got your licence - I must be reliving 16!!! Wasn't a bad time, come to think of it...

They just try one thing after another until it feels "right" and that just never seems to happen.  I'm glad to hear your H worked through the hawaiian shirt phase quickly, Still Kicking - that couldn't have been pleasant!