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#120: June 12, 2013, 01:33:21 PM
Yikes CJ ... Who does he see instead? Superman? Lol!

That is most strange ... he doesn't recognise himself anymore?

Hope someone has some words of wisdom!
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#121: June 12, 2013, 01:39:17 PM
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If the mlcer no longer sees himself in the mirror image what does that suggest.

He is a vampire? 

I guess I am not sure what the question means.  Do you mean he doesn't recognize himself?
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#122: June 12, 2013, 01:43:34 PM
Quote from: crazyjourney on June 12, 2013, 01:26:41 PM
If the mlcer no longer sees himself in the mirror image what does that suggest.

Identity issues or questions
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#123: June 12, 2013, 01:54:37 PM
Very literal identity crisis!  I remember for the bulk of the last year of my own crisis, I wouldn't even look in the mirror to brush my teeth.  I would make eye contact with myself as little as possible, because I had that "unrecognizable" feeling.  It wasn't overtly about age or anything in particular - it was just very uncomfortable and at time scary.  There's really nothing about it that makes any sense, and I see that now.  That probably doesn't help much, but I believe it IS part of this process.  My husband has been obsessed with his face throughout this, especially with grooming and facial hair - but at court last week, even though his clothes were properly pressed and in order, his face was a mess.  Very scruffy, uneven beard that had obviously not been cared for in awhile, and recent pictures of him match that too.  Methinks that's coming on for him.  He's Class of 2011 too, so it's about time!
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#124: June 12, 2013, 02:07:37 PM
I did just remember that right after BD my husband said he didn't recognize the person looking back at him in the mirror too.  Eerie how similar they are. 

He has also been obsessed with his appearance in MLC and still is going with that four years later (one would think it would all get exhausting) but I do note that his quest for youth and trying to portray a much younger image has made him age at least 10 years.  Wow, is he gray and scruffly looking.  He needs to find a new fountain of youth. 
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#125: June 12, 2013, 02:11:58 PM
Okay so you have me in stitches superman or a vampire lol.

I did wonder if he is no longer able to see himself in ow, or maybe that is wishful thinking, he has definately lost his identity but that happened ages ago as we know.

I have heard him refer to his dad and son as like looking in a mirror on two different occasions in the early days but now it is like he has lost any projection, he can basically no longer superimpose himself on his mirror image.

Dont know if anyone can make any sense of that.

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#126: June 12, 2013, 06:46:11 PM
Saw this tonight, and couldn't help but be reminded of this conversation.  I think this may be a perfect example of our MLCers and their "mirror work":

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#127: June 12, 2013, 08:30:57 PM
I shouldn't laugh but I can't help it.  I think that captures the poor messed up mood perfectly.
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#128: June 13, 2013, 12:48:18 AM
Yes that is brilliant they are sure having a hissy fit over themselves.

I like cats too and that one is so funny bless it.

I dont know where you find all of these R2T but they are always great.

I am just sitting here imagining my h running up to the mirror like that, so so funny, good job we can all still laugh at times.

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#129: June 13, 2013, 12:56:13 AM
That's so funny! Made me smile. What we all need.
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