[Musica]

Been thinking about this ... if he's looking in a mirror and he doesn't see himself ... then ...

Its probably a window!!

(sorry if you thought I might have some serious comment! lol!)

xxx

[alwayshope]

Lol Musica!

[BB64]

Hi, I have a couple of question. 9 mnths since BD and it seems like my ex has now gone into high energy replay.
I recently found out he'd lied about going to a party (told me and the kids that he had to work and cancel our usual sunday family day for it). I haven't mentioned it, refusing to give it any attention.

Yesterday he told my son (knowing it would get back to me, probably) that this Saturday coming he will be going in a stunt plane (talk about extreme adrenaline rush).
I will be seeing him the day after that on sunday, fathers day.
Now do I let him know that I know about it before he even gets the chance by saying something like: ''Hi, Mr Flying ace, I hear you've been up in the sky?''
Or do I not mention anything and if he does tell me, do I ask how it was or just listen, smile .....what do I say?
How should I deal with his crazy antics? They do affect me because I think ''You left all of us for that?'' but I feel I ought to act as if it doesn't phase me at all.


Advice please, thank you.

[trusting]

Or do I not mention anything and if he does tell me, do I ask how it was or just listen, smile .....what do I say?

I personally would go this route.  Don't say anything, but if he brings it up smile, nod, and maybe say something very light about it, particularly if he is trying to get some kind of reaction out of you. 

[BB64]

Thank you, trusting. I have just been for a driving lesson and it's good meditation for me. I am now thinking this would be the best route, too. Something light....I might just burst into song: ''Flyiiiiiing without wiiiiiiings' and leave it as that lol
Not going to make a big deal out of it. He might not even tell me because I know he'll expect me to say something mumsy and judgemental. He's no idea how much I have changed really re: his freedom.

[Anjae]

How should I deal with his crazy antics? They do affect me because I think ''You left all of us for that?'' but I feel I ought to act as if it doesn't phase me at all.

Ignore them may be a good idea. Some MLCers tend to start to go deeper into the tunnel months, or even years, after BD and their antics become crazier and crazier.

[BB64]

Yeah, sounds like the plan!
But really? I can't think of much more crazier than being in a stunt plane ....

[Anjae]

A stunt plane is pretty crazy. I didn't mean you husband is going to do crazier things than that  (he may or he may not, lest hope he will not) just that some MLCers crazy behaviour escalates as they progress deep into the tunnel.

Some MLCer can be quiet, or relatively quiet, for many months or even years and, at a point, they get themselves into something totally crazy. Like stunt plane.

I'm certain if freefall from Mars was available there would be an MLCer going for it... 

[BB64]

Yes, he was pretty quiet for a while, I didn't expect a storm was brewing. Mind you, nothing will surprise me after that.

I do hope it will cause him to vomit a little
It makes no sense. They are scared of getting old and even death, yet put themselves at risk. Bonkers!

[Anjae]

I do hope it will cause him to vomit a little
It makes no sense. They are scared of getting old and even death, yet put themselves at risk. Bonkers!

How not nice of you! 

It is exactly because they are scared of getting old and of death they put themselves into such risks. They think it will make them be/feel younger and that they can avoid/delay death.

In fact they may end up metting death, and ageing sooner. But no point in try to tell it to them. They don't get it.