[BB64]

Ah, yes, I think all the craziness will add a few wrinkles to their not so baby-faces already, while us LBS get into shape and looking after ourselves.
Nice to meet by the way, Anne

[Anjae]

Nice to meet you as well, booboo64. 

[panda]

Can I ask a question about Touch n Go's (following on from the documentation on the site) - can someone give me an example of what this would be?

Is it different if H still at home?

Also, if there are no touch n go's - is that an indication of anything?

[Songanddance]

Hi Panda - fellow UKLBSer with H at home and OW on the scene. Your BD roughly same time as mine although not anywhere near as traumatic as yours but My H being very "normal" at the mo so suspect "hoovering" is imminent!!
I bought RCR's articles (£3.50ish each) and so useful as the books explain everything in really good detail which the blog pages and web articles summarise.

[panda]

Thank you Songanddance - I shall take a look...

[trusting]

I am well over 4 months years post BD with a live in MLCer.  Touch and goes for me are things like my husband bringing something home for the house, going out to do something with me and the kids, etc.  In general, my husband is not home much and stays in the basement when he is. 

Edited - see above in red  - Old Pilot

[BB64]

I think I have had quite a few touch and goes then. I think he's a boomerang anyway. Moved out day after BD.
I've had bags of wood dropped by my front door (that he'd bought himself fro my wood burner), bags of wood from his work, money- a few times and that it's still happening, fixing my lawn mower, replacing plugs etc, taking me and dog to the vets. He was very helpful at first, but I just don't ask for so much help anymore but if I ask or hint he'll step in. Then I don't hear from him for a few days.

[panda]

Thank you booboo64 and trusting.  The thing is, I haven't had any of that - I feel well and truly dumped - what does that mean?

[trusting]

Booboo, yes I would definitely classify those as touch and goes.    And in typical style, they will do something "good" like that and then disappear for awhile.  It is all part of the cycling.

Panda, some MLCers are more distant and you may not experience touch and goes as much.

[BB64]

Panda, sometimes I wish he wouldn't because it really messes with my head. It's like mixed-messages that make no sense whatsoever.
That is why I try to do everything for myself and by myself these days, and to be honest, I believe that it's how we ought to be. Everyone. Nobody owes anyone anything. It's nice to be able to rely on someone but at the end of the day the only person you can rely on in life, si you. But that's just my opinion.

I know how you feel, I still feel abandoned at times and got so frustrated when things around the house broke and I was unable to repair them. But with the help of friends online and family (even youtube videos and google) I have learnt a few things.
How to clean out my washing machine filter; take a door off and put it back on, change a lightbulb ( yup, I had no clue before lol), change a fuse, chop and cut wood etc...And I am now so chuffed with myself with those small achievement

You'll be OK!!!