Hi, I am new here and have not yet interacted with many people. I do find that putting things down ( as in posting) helps me to recollect and gather my own info. I am still not sure whether my ex is a WAS or a MLC'er but here are some of the things that were said:
BD:'' I don't love you anymore. I have tried (thanks for letting me know you did!!!!). I had to be sure and now I am''
''I don't have any feelings for you, I don't even fancy you''
''I still like you, you are a nice persona and I want us to be friends''
''I need my own space, I know it sounds selfish and drastic but it's what I need to do'' (in my mind: so you do realise it is drastic and that there could be another way?!!!!!!!)
ME:'' Could we at least try for a bit''
Him: '' I suppose we have to, and obviously I still have some feelings for you'' (in my more so confused mind: eh? thought you didn't?!!!!!).......When I challenged him about it after REAL breakup ( 2 weeks down the line , he denied saying those things)
AT BD: me: ''What have I done wrong''
him: ''Nothing, you've done nothing wrong, you do everything for me!!
''Maybe you can find someone that will make you happy''
ME: so you don't fancy me?
him: I do, but my head is effed up at the moment. I'm not like you. Doctor thinks I'm depressed but I don't think I am.
''the kids will be alright, it's not like I am abandoning them''
me:''I'm telling you now, I don't think the kids will enjoy staying with you in your empty flat, no tv, no x-box?!!!
Him: cries:
me:'' but, it is what you want, this situation''
him: I know but not like this......(What the.....?!!!)