lawprofessor - hi
Same here, since H left, he's gone from someone adoring our pets to not even acknowledging them if he comes to the house, which isn't often, and on the first occasion, I think he forgot one of the cats names. We've only had her for 8 years (!), and he doted on her since day one, and that went to not even stroking her. When he does show up, she follows him around as she used to, and just sits waiting for some kind of recognition or words, and there's nothing. Its so sad. Then again, he doesn't even speak to his two children, so I'm not surprised. He did get himself a dog though after he left, and treats her very well.
During one of H's visits, we've had 3 in a year, and his first time seeing the kids since he walked out, he took a call from OW

, and for someone "in love", he showed no pleasure from hearing from her whatsoever, just flat matter of fact, certainly not one like a newlywed, but in his defence (?), bit of an odd place to talk. I was furious as he finally came here, and the kids got their first chance to see him, and he took a call from her, and even when he told her he was with the kids, she/they still kept talking. Then she called back, and he went outside to continue his talk for another half hour. Makes my blood boil to think of what he did, and there's his kids sitting waiting. So horrible.
Worse he gets, the easier it is for kids and I to be done with this behaviour.
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